Crazy Ex GF sabotaging my friend's relationship

[saX man]

I'd echo pstall a bit

 

Both of y'all sound inexperienced and most likely didn't communicate.  Establish the parameters bro! Did you partake elsewhere after you broke up originally?

 

Twice.  Both were younger early college ones.    

[davos]

Twice.  Both were younger early college ones.    

 

Well you should have continued that trend instead of what happened.  You let her get to your head so snap out of it, man up, and don't hang out with her anymore. 

[bleys]

 

I've got a rebound planned for Wednesday and another when this old flame gets back from college but my drive is diminished right now and I'm reeling something fierce. wtf.

 

Anyone ever have a similar situation?  

 

get yer poo together bruh

[davos]

One more thing: There's wayy too many bad decisions in your story.  Next time, when they come "running back", hit it and quit it and move on to better ones.  If you feel like crap, it's because you falsely invested your emotions and it's sounds like she used you once she knew.   

[Ja Rhule]

He got 99 problems and a bitch is 1.

[saX man]

Updated situation and yes, I've got my sh*t together now:

 

When we broke up, she became a third wheel with our best friend-couple and in our final week together had dropped a line about "Would you consider me a home-wrecker?".

 

Previous to this, I had mentioned how her best-friend's boyfriend was really cool and someone I'd want to hang out with as good friends. So we starting hitting the gym together and grabbing beers talking about the girls and their shenanigans.  She noticed my bromance and wanted to make me jealous. Now, she is destroying her best friend/co-worker's relationship and lost me for good. 

To expand on the OP for context, she invited this couple and me two her fam's thanksgiving. She flirted with him there and completely ignored me in front of her family and even went out to get beer with him leaving me and this guy's girlfriend/her-best-friend at her aunt and uncle's house. As mentioned, I broke it off finally the next day.  

 

 

We had absolutely zero contact until my b-day recently and ran into her during my downtown celebration.  It was here where she was in a skimpy skirt wearing a f*cking tiara (she's 23 btw...who does that?) and honestly looked like a piece of white trash completely different from anything I've seen of her.  My good bud/this boyfriend of her best friend took me aside and told me how him and his GF have been getting in huge fights about my ex's flirting with him and he thinks my ex is trying to f*ck him.  He even goes onto say that my ex is a beautiful girl with a great personality. Also mentioned she is constantly asking people about me, how I'm doing, and if I was seeing anyone (which I've been).  I told him that it was between the two girls and not my problem.  

 

I then finally confronted her later in the night very drunk and dished it all out.  About how she played me like a fiddle, never listened to me, treated me like sh*t, has no future the way she's acting in life....I didn't even let her talk and was pretty brutal.  She then cried for a while and to make a long story short stole my cell phone.  Again this is all on my birthday night.  She tried to go home with some of her friends but they denied her saying she treated me like crap and wanted nothing to do with her.  

 

So...she was drunk as crap and had nowhere to crash so her best friend (the GF of this loving couple who live together) brought her back to their place.  So on my actual birthday, I pick up my stolen cell phone from my ex GF at their house where I not only has 19 missed calls from grandparents, relatives, but even a major job offer I was expecting.  

 

The past few days I've been getting messages fro her "friends" about how I deserve better and am too nice of a guy to let this all effect me.  

 

So it's painfully obvious that she wanted to make me jealous and in the process is destroying her best friends relationship and lost me.  The thing is, I'm the catch, I'm out of her little league, and she's the terrible person.  Seriously, what a terrible person.  

 

El fin.  

[TNPanther]

Updated situation and yes, I've got my sh*t together now:

When we broke up, she became a third wheel with our best friend-couple and in our final week together had dropped a line about "Would you consider me a home-wrecker?".

Previous to this, I had mentioned how her best-friend's boyfriend was really cool and someone I'd want to hang out with as good friends. So we starting hitting the gym together and grabbing beers talking about the girls and their shenanigans. She noticed my bromance and wanted to make me jealous. Now, she is destroying her best friend/co-worker's relationship and lost me for good.

To expand on the OP for context, she invited this couple and me two her fam's thanksgiving. She flirted with him there and completely ignored me in front of her family and even went out to get beer with him leaving me and this guy's girlfriend/her-best-friend at her aunt and uncle's house. As mentioned, I broke it off finally the next day.

We had absolutely zero contact until my b-day recently and ran into her during my downtown celebration. It was here where she was in a skimpy skirt wearing a f*cking tiara (she's 23 btw...who does that?) and honestly looked like a piece of white trash completely different from anything I've seen of her. My good bud/this boyfriend of her best friend took me aside and told me how him and his GF have been getting in huge fights about my ex's flirting with him and he thinks my ex is trying to f*ck him. He even goes onto say that my ex is a beautiful girl with a great personality. Also mentioned she is constantly asking people about me, how I'm doing, and if I was seeing anyone (which I've been). I told him that it was between the two girls and not my problem.

I then finally confronted her later in the night very drunk and dished it all out. About how she played me like a fiddle, never listened to me, treated me like sh*t, has no future the way she's acting in life....I didn't even let her talk and was pretty brutal. She then cried for a while and to make a long story short stole my cell phone. Again this is all on my birthday night. She tried to go home with some of her friends but they denied her saying she treated me like crap and wanted nothing to do with her.

So...she was drunk as crap and had nowhere to crash so her best friend (the GF of this loving couple who live together) brought her back to their place. So on my actual birthday, I pick up my stolen cell phone from my ex GF at their house where I not only has 19 missed calls from grandparents, relatives, but even a major job offer I was expecting.

The past few days I've been getting messages fro her "friends" about how I deserve better and am too nice of a guy to let this all effect me.

So it's painfully obvious that she wanted to make me jealous and in the process is destroying her best friends relationship and lost me. The thing is, I'm the catch, I'm out of her little league, and she's the terrible person. Seriously, what a terrible person.

El fin.

I've dealt with similar attention seeking whores. It's so amazing the lengths bitches will go to stroke their egos and validate themselves through attention. She expected you to be a white knight of peace and suck up to her and you threw it back in her face.

That story made me fuggin cringe. Consider yourself a lucky man to be rid of her.

[KendrickPanther]

Just dump her and move on. You sound like a guy that has no problem meeting women.

[thefuzz]

Get out, hard and fast.  She is crazy, and immature, and that's a bad mixture.

 

And trust me, there is better sex to be had out there.

[bleys]

Updated situation and yes, I've got my sh*t together now:

 

When we broke up, she became a third wheel with our best friend-couple and in our final week together had dropped a line about "Would you consider me a home-wrecker?".

 

Previous to this, I had mentioned how her best-friend's boyfriend was really cool and someone I'd want to hang out with as good friends. So we starting hitting the gym together and grabbing beers talking about the girls and their shenanigans.  She noticed my bromance and wanted to make me jealous. Now, she is destroying her best friend/co-worker's relationship and lost me for good. 

To expand on the OP for context, she invited this couple and me two her fam's thanksgiving. She flirted with him there and completely ignored me in front of her family and even went out to get beer with him leaving me and this guy's girlfriend/her-best-friend at her aunt and uncle's house. As mentioned, I broke it off finally the next day.  

 

 

We had absolutely zero contact until my b-day recently and ran into her during my downtown celebration.  It was here where she was in a skimpy skirt wearing a f*cking tiara (she's 23 btw...who does that?) and honestly looked like a piece of white trash completely different from anything I've seen of her.  My good bud/this boyfriend of her best friend took me aside and told me how him and his GF have been getting in huge fights about my ex's flirting with him and he thinks my ex is trying to f*ck him.  He even goes onto say that my ex is a beautiful girl with a great personality. Also mentioned she is constantly asking people about me, how I'm doing, and if I was seeing anyone (which I've been).  I told him that it was between the two girls and not my problem.  

 

I then finally confronted her later in the night very drunk and dished it all out.  About how she played me like a fiddle, never listened to me, treated me like sh*t, has no future the way she's acting in life....I didn't even let her talk and was pretty brutal.  She then cried for a while and to make a long story short stole my cell phone.  Again this is all on my birthday night.  She tried to go home with some of her friends but they denied her saying she treated me like crap and wanted nothing to do with her.  

 

So...she was drunk as crap and had nowhere to crash so her best friend (the GF of this loving couple who live together) brought her back to their place.  So on my actual birthday, I pick up my stolen cell phone from my ex GF at their house where I not only has 19 missed calls from grandparents, relatives, but even a major job offer I was expecting.  

 

The past few days I've been getting messages fro her "friends" about how I deserve better and am too nice of a guy to let this all effect me.  

 

So it's painfully obvious that she wanted to make me jealous and in the process is destroying her best friends relationship and lost me.  The thing is, I'm the catch, I'm out of her little league, and she's the terrible person.  Seriously, what a terrible person.  

 

El fin.  

 

it shouldn't take too many more situations like this before you buck the trend before it happens...  think about how you'd be feeling if she hacked your phone and left an ignorant message for that potential employer.. lol

[Kurb]

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