Disciplining Children

[MagPie]

He said the "M" word OOOOOoooooo......

[Cat]

2 quick questions:

Is intentionally physically hurting another person against the law?

Are kids people?

Let the dancing begin....

Agreed. I think it's a bad idea to hit your kid. The fact that I even have to say that is pretty insane.

I'm not a fan of yelling at kids either. I'm not saying I have never raised my voice but I want to teach my son to solve conflicts in his life by being respectfully and reasonably so that's how I try to solve conflicts with him.

[Cat]

so how do you discipline your young'uns Zod? Hypothetically, your 2nd Zodling breaks the windows out of your new shed after telling him 3 times not to throw rocks. You would....what?

I got spanked as a kid & I turned out OK. I do not hit my kids when Im mad, I will cool off & then deliver the poppin hand. It is not my 1st choice of discipline, but when talkin aint workin, they damn sure listen to gettin their bottoms popped. I used to explain to my kids that this was their punishment & what it is supposed to accomplish. My son knows what it is now, I still tell my 3yo why she is gettin what is about to happen...

Why did you tell him 3 times? After the first time of disobedience I would have taken him away from the rocks or told him if he throws another rock he is going to lose TV for two days. As for breaking a window, i don't care what level of damage they do. If he threw another rock and broke the window, he would have lost TV like i warned. Anger shouldn't be a factor in disciplinary decisions, just my opinion.

or what zod said

[mmmbeans]

make him earn the money and fix the window himself?

[rodeo]

Something I'm noticing in this thread is that the people advocating spanking tend to have poor grammar and social skills.

Maybe they weren't taught to talk through their problems.

[j2sgam]

Damn... Apparently Im not a good parent....

My kids arent idiots either, but they are kids.. Kids do stupid shtuff sometimes. Im sure it doesnt seem stupid to them at the time. I did stupid things growin up that I just did, not really thinkin about it. Youthful indescretions, if you will....

Why did you tell him 3 times? After the first time of disobedience I would have taken him away from the rocks or told him if he throws another rock he is going to lose TV for two days. As for breaking a window, i don't care what level of damage they do. If he threw another rock and broke the window, he would have lost TV like i warned. Anger shouldn't be a factor in disciplinary decisions, just my opinion.

or what zod said

I give my kids 3 strikes before I punish them on just about anything. Could be part of my problem... Mine are 3&5, I give them a lot of leeway because they are so young....

Yous have given me quite a bit to contemplate.. Appreciate all of your inputs & LiaG for starting this thread....

[Ja Rhule]

Please don't give out parenting advice.

I think Zod needs some spanking.

[Ja Rhule]

I still remember when I was about 11... My dad told me to be home no later than 6pm... My friends and I went fishing and lost track of time... So we got back home around 9pm. I knocked on the door, door opens and it's an absolutely darkness inside the house. I take 2 steps inside the house and BOOM!!! I found myself completely disoriented, laying on the floor. Apparenly my dad took one of his army boots and smashed me in the face with it when I walk through the door. I was never late again.

[Ja Rhule]

Something I'm noticing in this thread is that the people advocating spanking tend to have poor grammar and social skills.

Maybe they weren't taught to talk through their problems.

Or maybe english is their second language?

[j2sgam]

Their comes a time when my childrens dont do what there told and they catch a smack right theyre on the bottom. Were where you when I needid too take parental guydance skooling?

Im gonna half to pop them sometimes irregardless of what some peeple think.......

[Cat]

I still remember when I was about 11... My dad told me to be home no later than 6pm... My friends and I went fishing and lost track of time... So we got back home around 9pm. I knocked on the door, door opens and it's an absolutely darkness inside the house. I take 2 steps inside the house and BOOM!!! I found myself completely disoriented, laying on the floor. Apparenly my dad took one of his army boots and smashed me in the face with it when I walk through the door. I was never late again.

Is this suppose to be an example of good parenting? I'm sorry your dad treated you that way.

[Ja Rhule]

I deserved it. People might see it as abusive but you need to realize where I came from. When it got dark, no kid should be outside. They turned off power in our city every day after 6pm. Many kids gone missing after dark and never seen again. We got spanked hard by our teachers at school as well. When I was in 1st grade, teachers had a whip. They teach you how to obey elders from early age.

[Cat]

I deserved it. People might see it as abusive but you need to realize where I came from. When it got dark, no kid should be outside. They turned off power in our city every day after 6pm. Many kids gone missing after dark and never seen again. We got spanked hard by our teachers at school as well. When I was in 1st grade, teachers had a whip. They teach you how to obey elders from early age.

Yeah a similar strategy was used with slaves. Make them fear for their safety and well being, beat the respect into them. Other ways work too. Ones that don't involve threats, fear and physical violence.

[Ja Rhule]

Yeap, my fiancé is from asian and they were raised pretty much the same way. I think its very common in 3rd world countries.