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Women Huddlers, Is There an Age...

Proudiddy

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Where women no longer flirt casually in passing? Any male huddlers can chime in with their own experiences as well.

I'm just curious because all through my teenage years and early twenties, I was hit on regularly. Being that I'm faithful to my wife, it was all I had to look forward to as far as attention goes and served as much needed confidence boosts. But, I never have it happen anymore (I'm 28 now) and stopped having it happen around 25 or so. I used to be approached in grocery stores, work, school, etc. As far as I can tell, I don't look much different than I did 3-8 years ago.

Just had my 10 year reunion and was told several times that "I haven't changed much at all."

My friend has a theory that it's because women our age now that still "flirt" or openly approach men are mostly in bars or the club scene.

Again, I'm not interested in that at all or engaging it. I just miss having that feeling of knowing "I still got it," and being able to say, "I'm sorry, I'm married." And to be clear, I've even discussed it with my wife, and I just get the "Women at work always say how handsome you are... And why does it matter?" LOL.

I think another thing at work is, I don't get out of the house as often and I'm currently staying at home with my kids during the day until I start grad school, so I'm just not out to where I can be hit on as often either.

Not to sound shallow, it's just bothered me. And on top of that, when something occasionally happens, I can't even read whether it was a "hit" on me or not. For instance, a girl gave me something for free that I intended to pay for at the drive thru and was making extra eye contact when she was speaking. But, I can't tell anymore...

Serious feedback is appreciated.

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That's another thing guys... One of my best friends, who I actually look up to a great deal because of what an upstanding person he is, he once asked me, "You don't ever BS with a girl? Like when you go through drive-thrus or run into one at a store? Just to see how they react? Not that you would do anything wrong, just to see what they'll do."

I guess like a "heat check," lol. I told him no, because I don't ever want to get that close to the line because it opens you up to do something wrong. And he is all about his soon-to-be wife and any girl he was with back then, he wouldn't cheat on them.

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I was out in Raleigh with my wife this past weekend and ran into a girl I knew pre her who told my wife how her friends talk about how lucky she is to be married to me....funny, great, errything

Quite flattering.

I stood there after she left looked at my wife and said "See I told you you were lucky....I don't make this crap up"

I got hit.

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Maybe these women don't flirt with married men

Do you wear your wedding ring?

and there's different types of flirting....not all flirting is "omg let's fug!!!!'....

I know what you're saying...but I think people flirt until the day they kick it..

Yeah usually, but I don't ever see women even look at it. And sometimes, I just run out to do some errands real quick, so I don't wear it and still nothing...

It's just weird. I used to get chased down in the mall and had girls offer to take me out to dinner. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to prop myself up... I always thought I was a nice looking guy but no dreamboat, lol.

But, I'm saying that because I had it happen A LOT where women/girls as a teen would openly flirt with me. I could even tell by how they looked at me if they were looking to flirt. Or when they'd look once in passing and I'd catch them look again - automatic. I don't even get second looks now when I'm out. Either that, or I'm just not as vigilant as I used to be when it comes to that, lol.

It's just kind of slightly, barely, just a little bit depressing.

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