So a friend of mine killed himself...

[ladypanther]

Suicide is perplexing. At least to me anyway. The person who takes their own life is incredibly brave and selfish at the same time. Those who suffer the most are the ones left to deal with the after math. No doubt your friends life didn't end when he decided to take it here on earth. You will catch up with him in another life. It's just hard for people to let go.

My older brother went to Walmart one morning, leaving with a box of .38 shells. He then went to the pawn shop asking to see a .38 chambered revolver. When he was given it he tried to load it. The guy working attempted to grab it, screaming "what are you doing"? My brother ran outside, with the gun and ammo in hand, to a near by alley. That's where he was found, still alive but barely. We didn't know at first what the fug happened. Took a day or two before we pieced everything together. He died 3 days later.

While your friend may no longer be here in the traditional sense, he is far from gone. When you see him again you can punch him in the nuts then hug him once again.

Very sorry to hear that and sorry for the loss of your brother.

I have worked with people who have survived what they meant as a fatal suicide attempt. What I have learned from them is that, when they got to that point, they truly felt that others would be better off without them. Not true, of course, but they could not connect with that. I am sorry for your brother's pain, and now the pain you and others have to carry.

[SCP]

It's always tough when someone you're close to passes, esp if its unexpected and even moreso for a suicide.

My business partner passed last year and it took me months to process the fact that he just wasn't there anymore.

You have my condolences, I know its not easy.

If death is weighing on you, definitely find someone to talk to.

Is he the guy that used to post on here?

[Darth Biscuit]

Is he the guy that used to post on here?

My business partner? No.

MCP works with me in the office... He still posts here some.

The guy that passed was my partner and our bus dev guy...

He was 61 and healthy and was bringing his sailboat in one weekend and fell out and died.

[SZ James (banned)]

Thanks everyone for taking the time to respond and giving your condolences.

Just to give a brief update: I'm spending a lot less time dwelling on this and I feel much better than I did when I made this thread. Once again I appreciate all of it.

[SCP]

My business partner? No.

MCP works with me in the office... He still posts here some.

The guy that passed was my partner and our bus dev guy...

He was 61 and healthy and was bringing his sailboat in one weekend and fell out and died.

Damn. Did he hit his head or something?

[Darth Biscuit]

Damn. Did he hit his head or something?

Not that we know... He just fell out, they never really determined the cause of death other than drowning.

[Carolinaguy]

I have lost two I know to suicide. Both were bright, articulate and from all appearances stable people. Yet behinds the scenes both were ill. And I do believe that we are susceptible to illness of mind and body and have a new respect for those who suffer from what many of us don't see, depression, anxiety and panic attacks. These two did not know each other. One female, one male. I won't post how they ended their lives, that's tasteless, but my post is to let others know, be compassionate with those who suffer from an illness no different than Cancer, TB, MS, MDA, Leukemia etc.