I cheated on my fiancé

[Niner National]

ahh the old let me be the big ole douche so SHE has to be the one to pull the trigger on the relationship. nik, man up and tell her your inner soul and if she drops you like 8th grade algebra, don't pat yourself on the back, but vow never EVER to hurt another woman ever again. especially one who treated you like gold.

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He said a few posts ago he broke things off with her tonight.

[pstall]

ahh. missed that part. well good for nik then. hope things work out for both.

[cookinbrak]

my dog loves penis.

You can tell yourself that, but it doesn't make it right.....

[thefuzz]

Good luck man.

That's gotta be tough.

Now shoot me a pic of her and I will let you know if I need the digits.

[nickzz]

You have a fiance' and put yourself into a position of compromising her trust and blaming it on booze?

Until you feel you can be truthful with a bunch of random people on a forum on the internet...I wish I could speak directly to your fiance' to tell her to leave.

holy poo what a prick

[sunbunny]

Had y'all set a date and paid deposits or just asked her and she said yes?

[FuzzyPanther]

2 things:

1st: You are/were not ready to be married. Marriage is an all out commitment to another, and cheating after the proposal means you lack said commitment. That's okay, you'll get there when you're ready, luckily you found out before you took your vows.

2nd: I forgot the second thing.

[cammycamjooce]

marriage is pointless and stupid. good move, sir. I applaud you, now continue to spread your seed like a real man should!

[ladypanther]

I think you ended this relationship too soon. Sent the message it was really not that important....of course the infidelity did that but this was the exclamation point. You crushed her and dumped her. Nice.

Maybe you did not deserve her...but she did not deserve that.

Hope the best for both of you.

[FurdTurgason]

I think you ended this relationship too soon. Sent the message it was really not that important....of course the infidelity did that but this was the exclamation point. You crushed her and dumped her. Nice.

Maybe you did not deserve her...but she did not deserve that.

Hope the best for both of you.

Sometimes this is the best way, though. She cries for a few days and comes out much better off than she would had he dragged it on for weeks or months. Wouldn't you agree?

Not trying to make him out to be a saint here, but why prolong the agony, when he might be tempted to cheat on her again?

[lightsout]

Sometimes this is the best way, though. She cries for a few days and comes out much better off than she would had he dragged it on for weeks or months. Wouldn't you agree?

Not trying to make him out to be a saint here, but why prolong the agony, when he might be tempted to cheat on her again?

^^ This! I am 90% sure my ex cheated on me, which lead to her breaking up with me. She strung that out for 3 months, if it's true (I mean, she mentioned meeting the guy in August of last year, and spoke of him occasionally, and then broke up with me in December and was out on a date with him within 3 weeks and has been dating him since May...yeah). That hurt like a bitch, and only amplified my pain (we were together for 5 years and I was considering proposing myself). So, good on him for fuging up, owning it when he was caught, and ending it quickly. She'll hurt for a shorter amount of time and come out of it (hopefully) with a sense of "well, at least he did it quickly".

Now...the bad news. By letting her hear it from somebody else and not you, you may have screwed future chances of getting back with her, if you decide that you want to. Sure, the old "I cheated, let's just sweep this under the rug and hope it never comes up" routine is par for the course, but you couldn't have thought that would happen with a mutual friend. Should have told her Sunday morning as soon as you saw her or as soon as you could get to a phone. But, that's all hindsight. The fact that she was willing to work through it after it all says a lot. Hope everything works out for the both of you, whether that be permanently going your separate ways or ending up together again.

[Ivan The Awesome]

Move on. Don't make her put up with more of your stupidity.

[NanuqoftheNorth]

Very few people get through life without screwing up at least once.

Some people never figure out why their lives are filled with so much drama.

This is your moment of truth.

Will this be a one time incident or a pattern of behavior?

Choose wisely and good luck.

[jtnc]

I hate to say it.....but, this is irreparable. You'll never be accepted by her family anymore. And, you fuged her friend wtf? If you're gonna cheat fug some random chick that has no ties to you or her.