Driving down the road yesterday

[Johnny Rockets]

Here is a scenario to test your level of patience: Let's suppose your kid (10 and under) makes a stain on the carpet, and in an attempt to try and be pro-active they decide they are going to clean it up. So they pull out the old capet cleaner and instead of putting the solution in it, they put Clorox in it.....you come home and find your whole stair case with white blotches on it...what are you going to do:

A. Scream and Yell and send them to their room

B. Scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, then calm down and leave it be

C. Talk, then scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, go in room and commence to whoopin ass

D. Just shake your head and chalk it up to a kid being a kid and go grab a cold one.....

props on the creative scenario...

I would go with E.

Walk in, give them the look and send them right to their room. I would grab a cold one to calm down and think about the situation and then go in to sternly address what they did wrong and what they should have done. Would be consequences in punishment, repayment of some sort, etc but a beating would not happen.

Not saying that is the right way to handle it and everyone handles things differently but I have never been one to scream and yell or beat my kids ass (although I have done both). I have found that my kids respond much better to consistancy and they know when dad means business and is not bs'ing around. If I go into something yelling and screaming then I am teaching them to react to situations the same way.

I have a 19 year old boy and an 8 year old girl, and although both are far from perfect (as am I) neither has given me a bit of trouble for the most part and are great kids and I hear that all the time from the adults the encounter. They respect me and my authority and I think it is because I have always tried to show them respect, fairness, and most importantly consistancy when handing out discipline. They may not like the punishment but they know that I am being fair and intend on following through with it and it's not just a knee jerk reaction to a situation that arises that I will go back on when I calm down.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

I'd make them do yardwork and chores without compensation until I felt like the carpet on the stairs was paid for. Maybe I'd give them a choice between that and one month being grounded.

As for the guy beating the kid, he may be one of those people that ignores the child's bad behavior until they snap and decide to correct it. One of the worst parenting mistakes ever imo.

[logic1977]

In my opinion you did the right thing by staying out of it. It isnt any of your business and butt whoopings are subjective. What looks like a real beating to you the rest of us might see as a slap on the wrist.

For all we know know dad told him "you want me to pull this car over" And the child said " hell yes you fugging %{>~^, you arent going to touch me"

[Rip Saw]

From the sounds of it, this is a group that doesnt believe in the " time out " approach to rearing a child.

[logic1977]

Time out is necessary. After I'm done handing out beatings I need my peace and quiet

[Sapper]

Here is a scenario to test your level of patience: Let's suppose your kid (10 and under) makes a stain on the carpet, and in an attempt to try and be pro-active they decide they are going to clean it up. So they pull out the old capet cleaner and instead of putting the solution in it, they put Clorox in it.....you come home and find your whole stair case with white blotches on it...what are you going to do:

A. Scream and Yell and send them to their room

B. Scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, then calm down and leave it be

C. Talk, then scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, go in room and commence to whoopin ass

D. Just shake your head and chalk it up to a kid being a kid and go grab a cold one.....

E. Force them to watch a marathon of Kate Hudson movies.

If I ever have 'belly gnomes', they will know when they have done wrong.