Driving down the road yesterday

[Rip Saw]

on route 211 at about 9 oclock am. Up ahead on the side of the road I see a pick truck stopped on the shoulder - see someone get out the drivers side and go around and pull something out of the passenger side - as I get closer I see its a kid- ( not good at guessing ages but less than 10 and more than 5 years old). As I get closer yet the guy starts spanking the living crap out of this kid- the kid is struggling to get away and the guy is just wailing on the kid - full long hard strokes - a real ass beating - probably 8-10 strokes at least - there were several cars behind me and they all must have seen it too. As we pass by I see a woman in the front seat and another kid in the back of the pick up watching.

It really got me to thinking - maybe I should have done something? But then what would I have done? This guy was really going off on this poor kid - he was obviously in a rage. Was it abuse or not? Should I have just minded my own business like I did or stop and try to do something? It really creeped me out - and I was spanked as a child- but nothing like this. And certainly not in public view at the side of the road - made me wonder if the guy is willing to do this in public whats he doing to the kid in private?

[Panthro]

I think one pop on the butt is fine.

[Guest]

A pop on the butt is what my kids got.

To your point RS, I shudder to think of what happens in private with this kid. If you have to pull a car over and wail on a kid like that, you have serious anger mgmt issues.

[SCMunnerlyn1]

on route 211 at about 9 oclock am. Up ahead on the side of the road I see a pick truck stopped on the shoulder - see someone get out the drivers side and go around and pull something out of the passenger side - as I get closer I see its a kid- ( not good at guessing ages but less than 10 and more than 5 years old). As I get closer yet the guy starts spanking the living crap out of this kid- the kid is struggling to get away and the guy is just wailing on the kid - full long hard strokes - a real ass beating - probably 8-10 strokes at least - there were several cars behind me and they all must have seen it too. As we pass by I see a woman in the front seat and another kid in the back of the pick up watching.

It really got me to thinking - maybe I should have done something? But then what would I have done? This guy was really going off on this poor kid - he was obviously in a rage. Was it abuse or not? Should I have just minded my own business like I did or stop and try to do something? It really creeped me out - and I was spanked as a child- but nothing like this. And certainly not in public view at the side of the road - made me wonder if the guy is willing to do this in public whats he doing to the kid in private?

Honest story here .. I as a kid 7-10 years old before my rents divorced and all that jazz had a dad that did the same thing .. what I can tell you is his thought process was if i'm not punished for whatever i'm doing immediately then I won't learn anything. He also had a scale of pissed off he would use to determine hits not to exceed 10. Usually it would be 4-5 .. but I have taken up to 10 he didnt care where it was and I am guilty of having an ass whooping off the side of the highway as well. Looking back now I don't consider it abuse some parents just discipline differently than others. I'm not hurt, or messed up psychologically from it. And most of the time I never did whatever I was doing wrong again. So since the others in the car were just watching I take it that happens often so you did fine to ignore it IMHO.

[Johnny Rockets]

Ugh..I am all for minding my own business and find myself preaching it to other people when I think they get invloved in something they shouldn't but excessive abuse (verbally or physically) on a child or a woman is something I can't over look.

Last year I was driving my son back to college and we saw a motorcycle pull off to the side of the road and a guy elbow a woman off the bike as it was still moving (slowly) maybe 5mph. I kept driving for about 20 seconds and then decided I had to turn around and do something especially with my son seeing it also. I got out and told my son to stay in the truck and difused the situation and made sure the girl was fine before I left. Another guy turned around like I did as well which seemed to really make the guy on the bike think about what he just did. Looking back I am glad I didn't ignore it but I know it could have turned out very bad.

[Iceberg Slim]

hmmm...interesting....so if you happened across a child in the grocery store, wal-mart where-ever that was of the same age going ape poo crazy..e.g. calling moms a b%$#% or flailing about on the floor or having some other type of general temper tantrum, would you get involved in that as well?

[Johnny Rockets]

hmmm...interesting....so if you happened across a child in the grocery store, wal-mart where-ever that was of the same age going ape poo crazy..e.g. calling moms a b%$#% or flailing about on the floor or having some other type of general temper tantrum, would you get involved in that as well?

You asking me?

I never have....I don't see that as my business. Not being able to control your kid and a grown man beating on a child or woman is two different things in my opinion. If that woman was to grab the kid and give them a good swift wack on the a$$ I have no problem either. It takes a lot for me to get involved in something but obvious abuse on a woman and child will get my attention.

[Iceberg Slim]

You asking me?

I never have....I don't see that as my business. Not being able to control your kid and a grown man beating on a child or woman is two different things in my opinion. If that woman was to grab the kid and give them a good swift wack on the a$$ I have no problem either. It takes a lot for me to get involved in something but obvious abuse on a woman and child will get my attention.

Nope wasn't asking you, actually was asking the OP but I appreciate your response. But don't get what the difference is between a man popping a child on his ass verse a woman. If your kid is acting up, out in public you correct them. That being said, talking should come first, but if they don't comply, well they get what they get...just my opinion

[thefuzz]

Honestly had you intervened it could have gotten ugly, quickly for you.

Better to have law enforcement called and get the tag and license number and have them try to take care of it.

Telling people how to handle their kids goes terribly wrong most cases, and if he was pissed, no telling what would have happened.

[Darth Biscuit]

Honestly it depends on the situation... I have spanked my kids before, the older one more than the younger, simply because it took more to get it into his head not to be defiant. My wife and I always tried to spank only for two things: 1) the kid does something dangerous that he should know better than, and 2) flat out disrespect to one of us. Otherwise, we would punish them differently.

I hated spanking my kids... worse feeling ever.

I don't know what the kid in the car did that Rip Saw witnessed, but it does seem excessive. More than 2 or 3 good pops is generally the parents anger going over board.

I've been so mad at mine before that I wanted to beat their ass right there, but have enough sense and restraint to walk away and cool off before dealing with them... some people don't .

[Johnny Rockets]

Nope wasn't asking you, actually was asking the OP but I appreciate your response. But don't get what the difference is between a man popping a child on his ass verse a woman. If your kid is acting up, out in public you correct them. That being said, talking should come first, but if they don't comply, well they get what they get...just my opinion

Doesn't matter if it is a man or a woman beating on a child...guess I worded that wrong. I just can't look past a woman or man beating a child or man beating on a woman.

Discipline? No problem...I would sooner tell the man or woman to pop the kid on the a$$ that was acting a fool (not that I would say something) than to think bad of them or say something for doing it. It's just when it is excessive and an obvious beatdown that I can't ignore and that sounds like what the OP saw.

[Iceberg Slim]

Here is a scenario to test your level of patience: Let's suppose your kid (10 and under) makes a stain on the carpet, and in an attempt to try and be pro-active they decide they are going to clean it up. So they pull out the old capet cleaner and instead of putting the solution in it, they put Clorox in it.....you come home and find your whole stair case with white blotches on it...what are you going to do:

A. Scream and Yell and send them to their room

B. Scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, then calm down and leave it be

C. Talk, then scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, go in room and commence to whoopin ass

D. Just shake your head and chalk it up to a kid being a kid and go grab a cold one.....

[Darth Biscuit]

Here is a scenario to test your level of patience: Let's suppose your kid (10 and under) makes a stain on the carpet, and in an attempt to try and be pro-active they decide they are going to clean it up. So they pull out the old capet cleaner and instead of putting the solution in it, they put Clorox in it.....you come home and find your whole stair case with white blotches on it...what are you going to do:

A. Scream and Yell and send them to their room

B. Scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, then calm down and leave it be

C. Talk, then scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, go in room and commence to whoopin ass

D. Just shake your head and chalk it up to a kid being a kid and go grab a cold one.....

This to me is not a spanking offense... I would punish them, probably some sort of restriction. They're not gonna learn on this one from spanking, they will learn when you sit them down and explain why what they did was wrong.

[SCMunnerlyn1]

Here is a scenario to test your level of patience: Let's suppose your kid (10 and under) makes a stain on the carpet, and in an attempt to try and be pro-active they decide they are going to clean it up. So they pull out the old capet cleaner and instead of putting the solution in it, they put Clorox in it.....you come home and find your whole stair case with white blotches on it...what are you going to do:

A. Scream and Yell and send them to their room

B. Scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, then calm down and leave it be

C. Talk, then scream and yell, send them to their room, find something to beat their ass with, go in room and commence to whoopin ass

D. Just shake your head and chalk it up to a kid being a kid and go grab a cold one.....

F: Be a little angry , commend them on their attempts to clean it up and inform them that they will now be doing additional house work and yard work to help pay for the damages ( doesn't help pay but its less poo i'd have to do around the house :P ) , I would then assuming it was a drink they spilt tell them they would no longer be allowed to take food and drink to their room until they could learn to be more careful.