Real Cheating

[TruCatzFan]

Damn... I wish I could talk to you right now... You have a life altering decision to make bro. I feel bad that this happened to you... In the last 5 min I have thought about if it happened to me... How basically my whole life would change... It's tough! Just know that no matter what hurting yourself in any way won't change anything. Not saying that you would or wouldn't but you never know. Things will get better... But likely will get worse first. Hang in there

[lightsout]

I would like to say, "don't take her back no matter what", but that's not realistic. Love makes us do crazy things. I will say to take the majority advice of total separation and getting "you" back. Once you can think clearly, you'll know what you want to do. If you do take her back, keep her "leash tight", so to speak. Make her earn that trust back entirely. In all seriousness though, if you can get over her entirely and move on, that's what is best IMO. It's what I would do. As it has been said numerous times in this thread, once a cheater, always a cheater.

[LifeisaGarden]

I've never cheated. I've never been cheated on to my knowledge.

My uncle cheated on my aunt years ago, they stayed together but it's been something she's never been able to forget. She has tried to forgive him for it but it always seemed to pop into her head whenever they had disagreements. A couple years ago he did it again. This time she decided to get back at him for cheating so she cheated on him. She went to a bar & hooked up with someone no one would know. They once again decided to try to work it out. (stupid imo) They have no trust for each other. They are miserable and the only reason they live together is because neither of them make enough money to live alone. She looks at him like he has to pay for what he's done to her. He looks at her like he has been sentenced to life in prison for cheating.

Cheating is a deal breaker to me. I could forgive him for doing it but I'd never forget it. I could not ever trust him again.

[Jim Harbaugh]

On second thought.

Maybe you oughta tell her it's all better and you want to move on with your relationship. Bang the hell out of her, then when you're done tell her as a casual piece of ass she's just not all that. Suggest that probebly the guy who she cheated with is of the same opinion.

Tell her good luck babe and never look back.

[Montsta]

I got locked up for robbery at 18 years old. My girlfriend stayed faithful until 3 months before I got out and then cheated on me with a guy her and her girlfriends had been hanging out with more and more. I chalked it off as my fault since I got myself locked up, but even though we were together for another 3 years after I got out, it ALWAYS was an underlying problem in the back of my mind, and ultimately manifested itself in ways that largely contributed to our eventual and unavoidable breakup. I'm sorry that happened to you KBRed, love and trust are two very delicate things that can drive a person mad. Good luck bro.

[Guest Kanon Tipton]

She cheated & now you're letting her put the guilt on you? Lol....

Throw her to the curb. She doesn't deserve you. There is no excuse for cheating. Tell her it's over & do not look back. Do not see her, talk to her, text her, think about her, nothing. If she contacts you ignore her. Trust me. Don't listen to her meaningless words because actions speak louder than words. Look out for YOU & move on. Been there done that. It's the hardest thing you'll ever do but it is for your own good. You deserve someone better.

[g5jamz]

I don't care pretty a woman is...how hot she is...crazy acts she might be able to do...etc. Somebody somewhere is sick and tired of her s**t. Don't waste your time. Don't be bitter...just thank her for showing who she truly is and preventing you from making a huge mistake.

[carolina-chuck]

So, my girlfriend of almost 6 years cheated on me on Sunday. I was honestly close to proposing, but we kept having arguments here and there that kept me from committing. He was a random guy that works in her building.

I really don't know what to think. She is honestly not that type of girl, but in a way I feel it's my fault for not fully being there. I started a business 3 years ago and financially it's been hard on both of us and I've been focusing a lot of time on it. But, I still feel that there is no excuse for what happened.

I'm 29, and really feel lost. She is begging me for mercy. She said she didn't know what she truly had until this happened. She realizes the difference in a gentleman and a player now, but all I see in her when I see her is betrayal and him. A part of me wants to forgive her, but I feel like it's because she is literally all I've known for love. I might sound like a doucher, but it hurts pretty bad.

Has anyone been through this? Gotten back with someone that cheated on you? Left and found someone?

Ima say this brother. You'd be STUPID enough to get back with her, unless she's just that baddazz in the room. But still is a blessing in disguise. Take ur route now and leave. Play around with girl for a while until ur committed to getting marry again.

Ask her out one day, sleep with her for the last time. After you're done with your business, tell her *** off.

[TruCatzFan]

Don't ever put your junk in her ever again! To her it would be like forgiveness! I talked to my wife about this.. Don't ever give it to her again!

[awdeansr]

Before I got married (about 20 years ago) I told my wife that if she ever felt like she needed another lover to just leave before she did it. That way there would be a heartache but no lingering bad blood over a night's worth of indiscretion.

There is no advice that anyone can offer you to make this situation better! Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and all you can do is to endure. I hope that you find closure to this matter soon.

[Razzy]

There's nothing I can say here that hasn't already been said, so I'll just repeat the most important part: Once a cheater, always a cheater.

She has probably done it before, either to you or another boyfriend. Don't believe what society tries to push off - that when a woman cheats it's the man's fault for not giving her "what she needs". Cheating does NOT come from a random place of weakness, cheating comes from complete selfishness and want. She probably was crushing on her coworker for quite awhile and, at a time when she was mad at you, selfishly thought "I want to experience someone else, for me."

This time it was the coworker. A decade from now it will be the pool boy.

[pstall]

kb if you are around later today and want to grab some beverages on Montford holla.

[Wanderlai]

It sure sucks, but in time you'll move on. She may very well never do "it" again but now you know she will do "it"...big difference. She's in full blown regret now to if she cares for you and that can bring up those initial feelings of love but that to will pass. Just don't blame yourself for her cheating on you. It was 100% her choice and it was thought out way before hand. Granted the guy may have made moves on her, had been working her for who knows how long but if he wasn't getting flirts back in return he would have moved on. Her weakness for attention was evident to him.

[Catalyst]

I won't say it's impossible to recover from something like this, but it's a terrible place to start a marriage from. And personally, after this long, if that's not the ultimate goal then what's the point?