Real Cheating

[Iceberg Slim]

Dude, sorry to hear this is going on with you. I've been married for a long time and I have to tell you the core of the relationship is trust. A woman who is your partner is someone that you absolutely, unequvicoally believe has your best interest at heart. Cheating is a hard thing, but if you believe this woman to be someone that you will be with in your golden years, and all throughout your relationship she has acted as a base of support, has been your best friend, then you at least have a strong base to work from. I understand the stresses attached with creating, and managing a business, it's hard financially and emotionally, and if she supported you through that, that says a lot....(been there before)....If you are strong enough, take the cheating out of it, and look at what you really are working with and then decide. Just my thoughts, either way I am sure you will make the best decision for you.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

threesome with her hottest friend or tell her to gtfo

[Ja Rhule]

Similar happened to me like 7 years ago. Except my girlfriend was banging this guy for few months before she got busted. She would tell me that she's going to hangout with her best friend or spend night at her parents house until she slipped and got caught. When she got caught she gave me that "I'm so sorry speech" she came to my house with huge thing of flowers and asked me for forgiveness. I threw flowers in the trash and told her to gtfo. Very next day, I dump her and fuged her best friend (no joke) and made em get in huge fight over me. I date her best friend for 1 month and then dump her too.

[KBRed]

Unfortunately, her best friend is with a good friend of mine. I actually texted her first that morning to see if they were together. She was upset with her, but I told her to be there for her because I wouldn't be at the moment.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

you'll be a lot better off emotionally if you just end it

[Ja Rhule]

Remember, time fixes things. Think long term, is it worth it? Men are very prideful and they usually never forgive. I don't think you will look at her the same and this trust between you two is forever gone and will never be the same. Bridge are burnt and not its ur turn to make a decision. You can still be friends but I suggest you move out and live with ur friends.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

also you gotta ask yourself how she would react if the shoe were on the other foot

[PhillyB]

shiiiiiiiit. man this sucks, i'm sorry to hear about it.

i do think you should let her go. you have no real reason to keep it going as you're not married and you have no kids. staying with her while battling visions of her cheating will be a kind of slavery, your own private hell.

my personal recommendation is to save up some money, take a leave of absence from work, and go travel somewhere. there is no greater cure for a broken heart than peacing the hell out of the country. when the seat belt sign flicks on your problems flick off and you're off for a foreign land with adventure on your planner and that bitch outta your heart.

south america is a $600 plane ticket away... just sayin.

[cookinwithgas]

the Secret Service approves this idea ^

[JakeFlake]

A tiger doesn't change its stripes. No matter who busy you are/were, and regardless of the financial strain that it put on the two of you, that is no excuse for her cheating on you. It is never, ever justifiable.

Like others have said, take some time, sleep on it, and see how you feel after a couple of weeks.

[Wyank]

Don't be surprised if you do end it she starts dating coworker. Take it as a sign you made the right choice by walking away to better things.

If she doesn't and holds on to hope that you will forgive her and take her back, maybe she is truly sorry for her mistake.

Still your decision and a damn hard one.

[CarolinaAllDay]

I say dump her. Another guy had his dick inside your girl and nutted all up in your playpen.

sorry to be so blunt but "it is what it is". Once a cheater, always a cheater. Youll start to forget once you pipe the first broad

[thefuzz]

She has known that she was going to do it for a while.

Get out, it's her way of getting out of the relationship.

I wouldn't care one bit if it put her financially in trouble. Move out immediately, and move in with some friends, relatives, econo lodge, whatever. Tell here that you will not be taking any of her calls, e-mails, texts, etc.... That you will consider all of your options, and let her know at some point.

Either way, get out of that house.

[TruCatzFan]

So, my girlfriend of almost 6 years cheated on me on Sunday. I was honestly close to proposing, but we kept having arguments here and there that kept me from committing. He was a random guy that works in her building.

I really don't know what to think. She is honestly not that type of girl, but in a way I feel it's my fault for not fully being there. I started a business 3 years ago and financially it's been hard on both of us and I've been focusing a lot of time on it. But, I still feel that there is no excuse for what happened.

I'm 29, and really feel lost. She is begging me for mercy. She said she didn't know what she truly had until this happened. She realizes the difference in a gentleman and a player now, but all I see in her when I see her is betrayal and him. A part of me wants to forgive her, but I feel like it's because she is literally all I've known for love. I might sound like a doucher, but it hurts pretty bad.

Has anyone been through this? Gotten back with someone that cheated on you? Left and found someone?

I didn't read any of the comments so if this sounds similar or has been said then please forgive me.

Women are emotional creatures. Men are physical creatures. With this being said, when a man cheats, it's just a piece of ass 99% of the time. When a woman cheats, she has emotionally connected with another man. She has weighed her options and was very detailed and calculated with what she did and how she did it. In essence, she weighed everything and decided it was worth it to get caught. That's not a good sign obviously... As she basically said fug it. Blaming yourself would seem to be the natural thing to do... But it's not. SHE made that choice regardless of what you did or didn't do or provide.

I personally hate cheaters, and if my wife ever cheated on me that would be the end all! I say that after having been with her for 7 years. I'm 28, and if someone is going to disrespect me like that, there is no forgiveness. We have a son as well, and I'd spend every last damned penny ensuring that I got custody of my kid too.

If I were you... And everyone's different... I'd kick her to the curb. You need to make up your mind and stand by your decision though... Man up, get rid of her, and stay rid of her. That means that even when you're drunk and possibly missing her, you don't call her and tell her that you want her back... You have to be resolute in whatever decision you make. Nobody can make this decision for you... But if she did it now, she'll likely do it again...

You are your own man, and nobody can tell you what to do. You have to do it on your own. I trust that you have people in your life that can give u the advice you need, but if not... And you know this... You have to Live with whatever decision you make.

PM me if you ever want to talk on the phone or anything... The more details I know the more I can help... I suspect that it's worse than you're letting on... Like who's the guy? What does he do? Ethnicity? Her type? There's a lot that goes into making your final decision. If it were me... I'd want all the info to try and make sense of it all. You've been with her for 6 yrs, so it should be rather easy to draw your own conclusions... Best of luck to u. Hit me up with a pm if you need anything.