Real Cheating

[Panthro]

But without trust there is really no point. She will also be miserable because she will think you do not trust her and will become defensive over random questions/conversation.

She also lied.

[KBRed]

Me I would move back in with my parents (if possible) and continue to pay on the lease. She or you has to move out for a month at the minimum.

That would put you into July ish.

My parents live about two hours away, so it's not really feasible. I might move into our warehouse. Not ideal, but I have everything I need, but a tv. I'm a member at the Y, so could take showers there. Sweet, I feel homeless.

[KBRed]

I did lose like 5 pounds by not eating anything but 1 meal a day. That's a plus.

[mmmbeans]

meh. it'll give you time and space to think... you aren't going to be able to do that if you're around her.

[Panthro]

Can you afford the rent on your own?

kick her out?

[Panthro]

They may not let you shower at the Y after seeing you play bball.

/levity

[mmmbeans]

if you kick her out you're still going to have to deal with her. you need to seperate completely.

no friends you can stay with?

[KBRed]

She could better than I, so I could possibly move out. I really don't have to worry about her safety anymore, so I could find a cheap place around where I work.

[Darth Biscuit]

I would ask her to move out. Pretty simple. She cheated, you need to figure it out... I think that is reasonable.

[KBRed]

They may not let you shower at the Y after seeing you play bball.

/levity

I've already been stabbed in the back, now you add another quick jab. That's ok, I have tough skin.

[cookinwithgas]

She should move out. At the very least it would show how she handles the overall situation. Certainly it could be surmised that the real reason she's all sorry about it is that she needs a roof over her head and asking her to leave "for a while" would see how serious she is.

[Panthro]

I've already been stabbed in the back, now you add another quick jab. That's ok, I have tough skin.

There was no ill behind my words.

The key is removing yourself from her. This is a time for some friends/buddies to help you out even if it for just a week or two. I would take a couch over being there...

[KBRed]

She should move out. At the very least it would show how she handles the overall situation. Certainly it could be surmised that the real reason she's all sorry about it is that she needs a roof over her head and asking her to leave "for a while" would see how serious she is.

She makes more than I do, so I know that's not the case.

[KBRed]

There was no ill behind my words.

The key is removing yourself from her. This is a time for some friends/buddies to help you out even if it for just a week or two. I would take a couch over being there...

I know. It actually made me laugh. I never try to burden people, so I've always tried to do things on my own. Honestly, our warehouse has a nice leather couch to sleep on, and an office with internet. Plus, I would be close to Zod, which is all I really care about. I should get a pity photoshoot with a Kitten for what I'm going thru.