If Your Wife Wants To Take Over Taking Care Of The Lawn, Would You Let Her

[Iceberg Slim]

what does she want to do that you don't agree with?? is it the actual work...is it landscaping and plants...que!!??

I don't agree with her being in my yard, she owns the house, yard is mine.As men, we need to have something of our own. See, here is the thing, we have been married for a long time, and over the years I have conceeded different territory in the house to keep her happy and to ultimately make my life happy. As I am now turning forty in August, I realized that the house I live in, bed I sleep in, etc is not a reflection of me, but rather a reflection of the wife. The only thing I have left is the yard, so I lose me if I give her the yard. ( I made this argument on Sat, you read the results of that, but I digress). A man should have at least one thing they can point to that they have ownership of when they come home from work,a grill,the yard,tools in the garage, when those things are lost, than your only purpose is being an ATM...this is bigger than the yard, it is about respecting boundaries in your marriage....the day she got rid of my chair was the day I vowed, no more....

[Mrs Pantherfan]

AAAH..I see...I understand where you're coming from...

this is a serious issue actually...if you two don't communicate and get to the actual root of this..the result might not be good...

[Iceberg Slim]

See, you get it. That was what I tried to communicate in the discussion we (my wife and I)had on Saturday, but if fell on deaf ears. She heard that I was trying to be controlling and block her sappiness rather than just give me a corner that I can call my own. 18 years in, I know that this is not all that serious of an argument. As anyone that has been with someone for a long time, I've learned how far I can push stuff and I also know when she isn't going to budge on somethingI believe she knows the same. This situation/argument, doesn't reflect something she is not going to budge on, but I put it out on here because I imagine, some of the folks that frequent the huddle are going through or have gone through similar scenarios and sometimes it is good to blow off steam.

[Panthro]

[Mrs Pantherfan]

IMO, it is a big deal..it's not just the yard..the yard is one of the final straws to you. You say all she hears is that you're being controlling, when in fact it seems to me that she is being the controlling one that has to have her hands in something all over the house and you feel like you have absolutely no say whatsoever in anything. You guys are going to have to come to some sort of compromise before you succumb to one more thing that she wants to have a hand in and you go all American Psycho and poo :)

just my cents

[Kevin Greene]

Nice Panthro.. Question, iz there anything sweeter than a Marty Bell painting?

[Iceberg Slim]

Your new garage

[Mrs Pantherfan]

that tv needs to be mounted higher :)

[Panthro]

I nipped the lawn discussion in the bud. I was talking to someone else about how I bought a cheap little mower and my yard is pretty damn big. She piped in saying something along the lines that it wasn't hard and that she wouldn't even consider it excercise...I told her that it looked easy because she never had to do it and that I would show her how to start the mower when we got home and she could give me a 1st hand opinion...

I told her I would do 99% and she'd have to weed for I have neither the patience or the attention to detail to do it well.

[Iceberg Slim]

Your new chair

[Panthro]

lol

She can do whatever she wants....I can still go out and mow the lawn for a couple hours in peace ;)

[Mrs Pantherfan]

we pay someone to mow and weed eat the yard...I take care of the shrubs and any flowers I want

Mr.PF couldn't give a rats ass about that kind of stuff

First conversation when we moved into our first house after already being together for 6 years

me: You know I don't mow, right...I'll plant flowers and poo all day long..but I don't mow

MrPF: I don't either...I'll find someone to come take care of it

well...that was easy :)

[Scrumtrilescent]

Guys who miss out on cutting the grass miss out on one of the top three times for peace, tranquility, and uninterrupted thinking time.

And I don't trust them.

[Mrs Pantherfan]

besides taking a dump..what's the other one?