I've got the ring and I am proposing.

[MadHatter]

We've been dating for four years, and I do not know how it has happened.

I am definitely "marrying up" and I am not even rich!

She would kill me if she knew I posted this.

Yes I am bragging.

You better ask that woman to marry you...and quick.

She is gonna wake up one morning and figure out that she can do a hell of a lot better than you.:D

Just like my wife. I found an incredible woman who was willing to put up with me....and I snatched her up QUICK.

[PantherBrew]

see what I started....

I just want us to be a happy family again.

:(

[bleys]

ya'll just forget I ever mentioned anything..I'm obviously in the minority and no one understands what I'm talking about

codependency is an epidemic in America today..

[MadHatter]

Wife and I had separate accounts for the longest time. However, we met after both of our careers were in full swing. We were both CPA's workign for one of the Big 4 firms. Our salaries were very similar and we already had individual accounts.

We just kept it that way. Each took about half the bills and saved an equal amount from our checks. The rest was for each of us to do with as we wanted.

Now, she is a stay at home mom and we have one account....which she completely controls.

Hell, I could not even tell you what accounts I have or how much is in them.

[KillerKat]

Hope she doesn't go on the internets and finds the huddle

[CRA]

the wife and I make comparable income. It all goes into one pot. Seems silly to seperate things....I pay the light bill, she buys the diapers, tell her she better come up w/ half the vacation cash or we ain't going etc.

if I was divorced or getting married late in life...I might do seperate accounts.

[MadHatter]

Hope she doesn't go on the internets and finds the huddle

She knows that I don't have a clue about the accounts.

If she wanted to take all my money, she could.

I just hope and pray that she does not get tired of me. I would have divorced me YEARS ago.

[MadHatter]

the wife and I make comparable income. It all goes into one pot. Seems silly to seperate things....I pay the light bill, she buys the diapers, tell her she better come up w/ half the vacation cash or we ain't going etc.

if I was divorced or getting married late in life...I might do seperate accounts.

We already had separate accounts when we got married. With comparable incomes, direct deposits, automatic drafts, etc.. it was just easier to keep both and split the bills.

It did make it easier to keep track of how much we had in our accounts. I never had to check and see if she had withdrawn money before making a purchase (to know if I needed to transfer money from savings or mutual funds). Same with her.

[Panthro]

the wife and I make comparable income. It all goes into one pot. Seems silly to seperate things....I pay the light bill, she buys the diapers, tell her she better come up w/ half the vacation cash or we ain't going etc.

if I was divorced or getting married late in life...I might do seperate accounts.

Yep...we talked quite a bit about this subject. At the end we are in this thing together...

Cause of divorce:

#1 Communication

#2 Money

[CRA]

We already had separate accounts when we got married. With comparable incomes, direct deposits, automatic drafts, etc.. it was just easier to keep both and split the bills.

It did make it easier to keep track of how much we had in our accounts. I never had to check and see if she had withdrawn money before making a purchase (to know if I needed to transfer money from savings or mutual funds). Same with her.

true.

my wife also manages our money so she really is the only one who has to stay on top of the day to day and bills.

We just have a general understanding she is to keep X amount in the checking account so I don't every worry about stuff when I spend. Also, we don't really nitpick each other.....just a mutual understanding purchases over Y amount are shared with each other before making them.

[Mrs Pantherfan]

Cause of divorce:

#1 Communication

#2 Money

exactly!

maybe it's because MrPF and I have been with each other since I was 23 and he was 21...it's just the way we have always done things..12 years later it still works for us..maybe we are weird..who knows..but we never fight about money and we're damn good at communicating about everything else too

what's really important in any relationship is finding out what works and sticking with it...I'm glad we found ours

[Johnny Rockets]

You better ask that woman to marry you...and quick.

She is gonna wake up one morning and figure out that she can do a hell of a lot better than you.:D

Just like my wife. I found an incredible woman who was willing to put up with me....and I snatched her up QUICK.

That's why I am marrying down next time around. :)

I know what you are all thinking, if I plan on marrying down that doesn't really leave me much to choose from and you are right. I have been scouting out homeless shelters recently in order to find "The One".

[PantherBrew]

Huddles advice: don't ask the huddle for advice.

:)

[PanthaSan]

Don't get married....