Parenting Question

[Mrs Pantherfan]

Jesus Christ u said that to your mom. :eek:

lol....between the ages of 15 and 17..my mom decided that going thru menopause would greatly deepen the bonds of love between mother and daughter...

we fought....constantly...it was not good

[Kettle]

my dad used an old leather belt, but never pants down. he did have me bend over my bed though, but i think that helped him hit the right place. the butt is really the only acceptable area. slaps on the hand are also acceptable i think. i also always got verbal warnings before spankings.

[chef17]

In public the only thing you can really do is choose not to be around them IMO. In your house, if the kid misbehaves I say tell the parents once. After that discipline the kid however you see fit. If the parents don't agree they are welcome to leave. Don't have kids but just my 2 cents.

[lightsout]

If you wouldn't have said that it was the 3-year-old that poo in the yard, and just said "he", I would have assumed you were talking about Salty.

But seriously, you only have two options. Don't invite them over WITH their kids anymore...or kill their kids. I'm not trying to say, I'm just sayin'...

[lightsout]

i also always got verbal warnings before spankings.

My dad did that, but he never punished me. He just let natural selection take it's course.

"Don't touch that go-cart motor. It's hot. It's gonna hurt."

*I inch closer to it*

"Boy, don't do it. Gonna hurt like hell."

*I inch closer to it*

"Last warning. Don't you get closer to it!"

*I inch closert*

"You know what, go ahead. Touch it."

*I touch it, burn all hell out my hand*

"I told you. I fuging told you. Come on, let's get the peas."

My mom would just angrily slap me around with a belt. Oh the benefits of divorced parents. Get one great parent, one shitty parent.

[Chimera]

My dad did that, but he never punished me. He just let natural selection take it's course.

"Don't touch that go-cart motor. It's hot. It's gonna hurt."

*I inch closer to it*

"Boy, don't do it. Gonna hurt like hell."

*I inch closer to it*

"Last warning. Don't you get closer to it!"

*I inch closert*

"You know what, go ahead. Touch it."

*I touch it, burn all hell out my hand*

"I told you. I fuging told you. Come on, let's get the peas."

My mom would just angrily slap me around with a belt. Oh the benefits of divorced parents. Get one great parent, one pooty parent.

:lol: sounds like me and my oldest

[Floppin]

My dad did that, but he never punished me. He just let natural selection take it's course.

"Don't touch that go-cart motor. It's hot. It's gonna hurt."

*I inch closer to it*

"Boy, don't do it. Gonna hurt like hell."

*I inch closer to it*

"Last warning. Don't you get closer to it!"

*I inch closert*

"You know what, go ahead. Touch it."

*I touch it, burn all hell out my hand*

"I told you. I fuging told you. Come on, let's get the peas."

My mom would just angrily slap me around with a belt. Oh the benefits of divorced parents. Get one great parent, one pooty parent.

I kind of take this approach with my kid, although it drives my wife crazy. It's ok sweety, just let her fall down the stairs if she wants to jump on them, she'll learn....WHHHATTTTTT?!?!?!?!?!

[pstall]

well, you can't totally cut them out. obviously, if you do have them back it needs to be spelled out that you don't need any help fertilizing the yard.

maybe im a strange dude but if my friends kid that, i don't freak out or anything. i laugh it off and then just go duuuude. you gotta get your kid up to par with humanity.

if he balks go thats cool. then slowly wean them off of seeing you guys. the light has to come on or dss will be making a visit.

[Chimera]

well, you can't totally cut them out. obviously, if you do have them back it needs to be spelled out that you don't need any help fertilizing the yard.

maybe im a strange dude but if my friends kid that, i don't freak out or anything. i laugh it off and then just go duuuude. you gotta get your kid up to par with humanity.

if he balks go thats cool. then slowly wean them off of seeing you guys. the light has to come on or dss will be making a visit.

Some people just have no common sense. Sometimes it takes someone to freak out on them.

I had a neighbor whose dog peed in my yard. I can live with that. But my son had one of those little Flintstones type cars where he sits down and his feet come out the bottom. One day I caught my neighbor with her dog on a leash, leg up peeing all over my son's car.

I flipped out on her. She honestly didn't see anything wrong with the situation. I had to go retard on her and slowly explain to her why its wrong to have a dog piss on a child's toy and to walk away and just let the child play in dog piss. I don't expect the dog to know, but the owner?

And the child in the OP leaving a landmine where other kids play... I would've flipped on the parents too, friends or not.

[Cat]

lol....between the ages of 15 and 17..my mom decided that going thru menopause would greatly deepen the bonds of love between mother and daughter...

we fought....constantly...it was not good

My mom and I bickered a lot when I was a teenager. She didn't want me to do anything or go anywhere. She's a family person and she never liked us having friends all that much. We did, she just sometimes made it difficult and didn't like most of them.

[Cat]

I kind of take this approach with my kid, although it drives my wife crazy. It's ok sweety, just let her fall down the stairs if she wants to jump on them, she'll learn....WHHHATTTTTT?!?!?!?!?!

Sounds like me and my husband. I'm fine with that process as long as the risk isn't too high. If he could seriously get hurt then NO WAY.

[chknwing]

Well its called life. Improper behavior to you may be proper to others. Its your job to teach your child and prepare them for the vast differences they will see in people. What you are doing now, is avoiding it, hoping it will go away which will result in your child not being able to handle these differences in people when they get older. personally, it would be better for them to see what you think improper behavior is and then explain to them why its improper. As far as letting them come to your house, well unless you have hard wood floors, it might not be a good idea. :)

[MCP]

We have a wooden sword we got from the Renaissance Fair like 15+ years ago. It is now known as the Sword of Justice. I can't remember having to ever use it on the younger two. used on the others only once or twice. It doesn't take much. I Never lash out in anger, never smack them slap them or anything. What I do do is give them one warning. None of this multiple warning crap, because then, if you are consistent, they learn real quick, just how far they can take it, and will. And, if you are not consistent, that is not fair to them. After one warning, if they choose to not head my instruction, Then whack, once or twice is all it takes, the end. As I said , never even had to use it on the younger ones. The older ones served as an example. They did not want to experience.

As a side not, just as there is a big difference between grounding, and imprisonment, so there is a big difference between a spanking, and a beating.

Never, ever, lash out in anger at you child. Always be in control.

Oh yeah, and to address your original question, I would have cut ties with those people long ago. We had to do that more then once. It is amazing, how many people there are out there, who are either afraid to discipline their kids, or who just don't care. Either way, the way I figure it, is that I don't need my kids to have those kinds of influences in their lives.

[cookinbrak]

Just tell then NC law requires that you clean up after your pets. They'll never wanna hang out anymore.....

Also, my dad used a belt. Mom used whatever was available- belt, hand, cooking utensil, shoe, another kid......