What would you choose

[Mrs Pantherfan]

I will say this TRD. The fact that you in-laws are willing to participate in any of the three above options proves that you have pretty awesome in-laws!!

This is true..but I was raised to take care of myself..I'm sure that if my husband and I were in need and we really needed help, I'm sure I could go to my family or his for help..but I'm a firm believer in not take donations so to speak...this is just my opinion though..It sounds like you've already made up your mind

p.s...please tell me your name is going to be somewhere on that paperwork ...

[Floppin]

Alight back to being serious...

I don't know what risk I have and think the reward is nice either way.

Just a broken family? Is that my only risk? I don't really like people that much anyway

If you get at odds with your wife's family you will soon be at odds with your wife. The risk that you will be taking on is a failed marriage, living with your inlaws as newly weds is a VERY BAD idea.

[TheRealDeal]

This is true..but I was raised to take care of myself..I'm sure that if my husband and I were in need and we really needed help, I'm sure I could go to my family or his for help..but I'm a firm believer in not take donations so to speak...this is just my opinion though..It sounds like you've already made up your mind

p.s...please tell me your name is going to be somewhere on that paperwork ...

My name is going to be on the deed and the loan.

We don't need this by any means, but it's a good head start.

I would do anything I can to give every advantage to my new family, I will not let pride get in the way.

[TheRealDeal]

If you get at odds with your wife's family you will soon be at odds with your wife. The risk that you will be taking on is a failed marriage, living with your inlaws as newly weds is a VERY BAD idea.

That's my main worry but I think we'd move out if it ever got to that point.

[thefuzz]

Live with them if there is an option to move out at any time no harm done. If you can bounce and get a rental quickly at the first sign of problems then this is probably the best route.

Save as much as possible, and then get out of there.

[teeray]

I don't know if I could "do what married folks do" with my wife's parents down the hall.

[TheRealDeal]

That's what I'm saying.

I've worked my ass off my whole life, I'm trying to take advantage of a good opportunity. If it fails, I bail. Worst thing that happens and I'm still in a better spot than where I started.

[Floppin]

That's my main worry but I think we'd move out if it ever got to that point.

If it was to get bad enough that you had to move out then your relationship with her side of the family is tainted no matter what. You always want to stay on the positive side of your inlaws, a good rule is to never put yourself willingly into a position that will jeopardize that relationship.

[TheRealDeal]

I don't know if I could "do what married folks do" with my wife's parents down the hall.

Fight?

Naw, I like to get mine in the morning and early evening. He's literally gone from 7 or 8 to 10 or 11.

My ass is asleep by then. We've already talked plenty about that and it's a non issue.

[TheRealDeal]

If it was to get bad enough that you had to move out then your relationship with her side of the family is tainted no matter what. You always want to stay on the positive side of your inlaws, a good rule is to never put yourself willingly into a position that will jeopardize that relationship.

Her real dad and I don't speak because he's an assclown. I think we'd just play it off like we were ready to move on and have saved enough.

Not everything has to end badly.

[Panthro]

Excuse me FIL...I'd like to bang my wife/your daughter but cannot due to you sitting in the family room with your shirt off watching Jim Cramer.

[teeray]

Fight?

Naw, I like to get mine in the morning and early evening. He's literally gone from 7 or 8 to 10 or 11.

My ass is asleep by then. We've already talked plenty about that and it's a non issue.

Fugging sounds a lot like fighting if you are doing it right.

[teeray]

Excuse me FIL...I'd like to bang my wife/your daughter but cannot due to you sitting in the family room with your shirt off watching Jim Cramer.

FIL: Oh don't mind me, I will just turn the volume way up. Hump away my boy.

[TheRealDeal]

Fugging sounds a lot like fighting if you are doing it right.

Newlyweds...

Plus have you seen how good looking I am, she cannot keep her hands off me.