One Fugged up week!

[o803oVaDeR]

Wassup peeps? I have know idea why I am posting this here. I just need to share a horrible week with people other than my friends, because they dont need to know I am struggling right now. I got to stay strong for them.

So I will try to make this as short as possible.

I am getting married in 1 week

Last weekend:

Bachelor Party in Myrtle Beach. It was so much fun. About 8 of us went down and drank and partied for 4 days straight.

Monday

Back to work, still hungover as hell. This would end up being the highlight of the week.

Tuesday

I get up to find that my neighborhood was egged the night before. Nothing at my house is hit, so I ignore and go to work. I find out later that day that one of the busy bodied neighbors of mine has been telling everyone it was my 17 year old step son. I know for a fact it was not him because he went to bed and I was up most of the night with pounding head aches. I also checked his phone records and no activity after 1030 that night, so I am sure it was not him. I was looking forward to getting home and cracking some heads on my street. Before I go home I get a phone call from my cousin who informs me one of our close friends died in a motorcycle accident the night before. I was and still am very shaken up by this. I have not even dealt with the neighbors because of this.

Wednesday

As I said I am getting married next weekend so I had to move forward with the plans despite the loss of my homie. I am trying to stay busy but I am having a hard time. My future wife had to tell my step mom that we could not use the dress that she bought for us, for my daughter to wear at the wedding. It just does not match. We have been telling her all along, and she bought this thing without even knowing the colors. So she sends her a very nice text to tell her that we can not use the dress. My step-mom responds by telling my future wife to "Go to Hell". I was in such shock. I could not believe she would say this. She has always been a little off the chain, but Damn! So I really could not take anymore for that day. I ignored it and went to bed.

Thursday

I call my Dad to confront him about my step-mom's comments. To my complete disbelief he takes her side. He says we should have told them from the beginning that we could not use the dress. Witch we did but they never listened. I have never had a fallen out with my Dad, we were always very close. They know what we are going through with the loss of our friend but its like they dont even care. I ended the call by telling him I was sorry we could not use the dress but I do expect an apology from my step-mom and that this was not going to just go away. Then my Aunt calls who I am not extremely close with but still. She tells me they cannot come to my wedding because it is during their annual cook out. Really, a cook out. I would rather you just not come and let me come up with my own reasons why you are not there. Panthers play the Bangles. Should be an easy game and a little cheer me up. Something I was in desperate need for. Well we stunk it up and the game did not make me feel any better. Still no call from my Dad. At this point it is really bothering me.

Today

Nothing major has happened still no call from my Dad, funeral for my friend is tomorrow, I am just completely bummed out, and me and all my crew have one week to get excited about a wedding. I dont even know if my Dad is going to show up. This has been one rough week!

Sorry so long I guess I just needed to vent a little.

[SCMunnerlyn1]

Sounds like a horrible week .. your step mom is a bitch , and she obviously wears the pants in the relationship which is why your father took her side .. I hope things start to look up for you and i'm sorry for your loss. Hope the wedding goes well :)

[o803oVaDeR]

Sounds like a horrible week .. your step mom is a bitch , and she obviously wears the pants in the relationship which is why your father took her side .. I hope things start to look up for you and i'm sorry for your loss. Hope the wedding goes well :)

Thanks bro!

Yeah, I have no idea why my Dad is such a p*ssy when it comes to her.

[SCMunnerlyn1]

Thanks bro!

Yeah, I have no idea why my Dad is such a p*ssy when it comes to her.

He's getting old man .. it gets harder and harder to find a relationship .. and she still gives it up , so he'll do whatever she says.:p

[SCMunnerlyn1]

My bad .. wrong thread so to cover up my fail .. shall say something witty ... pip pip di doodley do..

[sunbunny]

I'm sorry about your friend. (((hugs)))

I hope everything works out for your wedding. Maybe you need to turn into a groomzilla.

Was the dress she bought expensive or something? Maybe your daughter could change into it for the reception just to keep the peace. Your stepmom is over reacting, though maybe a text wasn't the best way to inform her it wasn't being worn. Of course, after her reaction, I can understand why your fiance didn't want to tell her over the phone.

Did your dad actually say he wasn't going to wedding? That's cold.

[Wither]

Come play me for a day. :o

[Mr. Scot]

Sorry to hear it, man. That is quite a week :(

[Jeff L]

Don't let your dysfunctional family ruin your big day. There comes a time when you have to choose your happiness over the drama from your family. You will have YOUR own family to take care of soon!

Sorry about your friend too bro... I am sure he would want you to be happy on your big day!

[o803oVaDeR]

Thanks guys. I got to keep moving i guess. The funeral today will be very hard but i got to get through it and move on. Jimmy would not want us all sad and sh*t at the wedding. I am leaving a chair for him with a black ribbon and when we all walk down we are dropping a rose in his chair.

My dad did not say he was not coming but if my step-mom doesnt i am sure he will not.

[LiQuiD]

It's amazing how difficult weddings and any other mass gathering become because some asshole decides to do whatever they want. No matter what you do someone is going to be pissed for some reason legitimate or not.

That's why I'm so damn glad that my wife and I have the bridal shower, wedding, and baby shower behind us and all the damn visits from people after our baby was born.

I love our families, but they can be annoying as fug.

[bleys]

most situations call for you to put your foot down and go speak the truth to someone's face..

I would go over to your dad/step-moms and let them know wtf is up.. you told them the dress didn't match and she bought it anyhow, that's not your fault. if you want to tell my fiance to go to hell because you are a dumb bitch, then f**k you.

tell dad he needs to man up.. repeat the truth, and then say if you don't have my back and are going to miss MY wedding because you married a woman who cannot listen, rather be ignorant and ruin my week, then you are being a piss poor father. and I expect apologies from both of you..

and if they don't show up, whatever, you said your peace.. go live it up the next week..

sorry to hear about your friend..

[Chaos]

Ten years ago, my now wife and I went to the Bahamas and had our wedding and honeymoon all at the same time. Can't beat it - and the best part, the moment was all about us, not how to please everyone else. I've never regretted it for a moment, and would recommend it to anyone dealing with the typical family bullshit of planning a wedding.

Good luck to you.