What should I do in this situation

[cookinbrak]

1 The kids dad knew she had a dance recital, but you didn't?

2 They were talking in the yard for an hour and you never got up?

3 Wasn't the kid an hour late for school?

[Mayor Qumiby]

1 The kids dad knew she had a dance recital, but you didn't?

2 They were talking in the yard for an hour and you never got up?

3 Wasn't the kid an hour late for school?

No

Yes

No

[sunbunny]

I seem to be the only one able to give her the benefit of the doubt. I can believe her story of what happened. Then again, I've been in her situation. I'm glad my hubby, then bf, stood by me and didn't run.

[Chaos]

smell her vagina

sonofabitch, we're on the same page here.

[Hawk]

I am so disappointed.

me too...but you knew someone was going to say it, so it may as well been the smart ass!

[mmmbeans]

do NOT tell her you know. let her dig a hole and then watch her try to dig herself out.

do not lose the only ace in your hand. if you do, it's only going to be that much harder for you to back her in a corner instead of derailing the f**k out of the conversation with all kinds of bullpoo, lies, twisting truth, etc..

if she isn't upfront, you know something is up. if she is upfront, you can cautiously talk it out.

telling her you know is stupid. she doesn't know you know, that's the only solid foundation you have to TRULY know if she's lying or being upfront.

seriously, the only thing that needs to come out of your mouth when you talk next is "sorry about this morning, I must have been having a really good dream when you tried to wake me up... did you get there okay?"

then push and prod.. not at the same time, just ask some random questions like, was traffic crazy when you dropped her off at school? did you get to work on time? etc

if she never mentions him.. you know something is up. then maybe throw her a curve ball.. tell her that her baby's daddy called the other day and you forgot to tell her. see her reaction. I don't know you're girl and exactly how to attack this, but play it smooth and be tactful.

if she throws you a fastball down the middle that you know isn't true, hit a homerun and drop the bomb on her like you saw him out the window and what is she hiding..

you sound like a woman.

[SmootsDaddy89]

[Tyler Durden]

Don't buy that BS she's slinging...

1. She didn't have to allow him to go with her to drop the kid off.

2. They shouldn't have anything to talk about that would require an hour.

3. Seems to me that if she was truly annoyed by his calls/whatever, she'd take the proper steps to keep him out of her life. You can block numbers via your cell company, and you can put people on ignore on FB, so they can't even see your profile to try and add you as a friend.

I'd love to be optimistic here for you, but if you have some sort of doubts enough to come here asking, there is probably a reason why...

Keep sleeping late and next thing you know you'll be moving out and he'll be moving in...

[bleys]

you sound like a woman.

Yo Mamma's so fat it takes two busses and a train to get on her good side.

[hepcat]

Is she acting kind of shady, and calling you baby? Tell her to say your name. When no one is around you, say baby I love you. Are you playing games?

[mmmbeans]

Yo Mamma's so fat it takes two busses and a train to get on her good side.

no u.

[Toolbox]

Was she cheating on him with you at any point?

[sunbunny]

Don't buy that BS she's slinging...

1. She didn't have to allow him to go with her to drop the kid off.

2. They shouldn't have anything to talk about that would require an hour.

3. Seems to me that if she was truly annoyed by his calls/whatever, she'd take the proper steps to keep him out of her life. You can block numbers via your cell company, and you can put people on ignore on FB, so they can't even see your profile to try and add you as a friend.

I'd love to be optimistic here for you, but if you have some sort of doubts enough to come here asking, there is probably a reason why...

Keep sleeping late and next thing you know you'll be moving out and he'll be moving in...

1.There's a child at stake here. Maybe the kid wanted him to go. Or maybe she was just shocked and didn't know really what to say, so let him go.

2. They have a child. There's at least an hour's worth of stuff to talk about.

3. Maybe she has hope that he'll do the right thing one day by her kid. Doesn't mean she wants to be with him.

My son's birth father's phone number has been on the fridge for 15 years in case my son ever wants to call him. Doesn't mean I'm banging him or talking to him. We don't have our number blocked and we don't hide. He knows how to find us if he ever wants to see my son.

[TruCatzFan]

Thanks for all the input guys. but here's how it played out she came back into the bedroom and "woke me up" and told me everything. See my girlfriend never talks to him, he calls she wont pick up he tries to add her on FB she declines and he's been trying to get in contact with her but she wants nothing to do with him. So this morning when she walks outside she saw him just sitting in his car in the driveway, she's goes and ask what he is doing here and he was like well if you picked up your phone and talked to me I wouldn't be here and basically he was there to see if he could go see her dance recital which is today.

So yea the situation is pretty weird, but not really what we were thinking lol.

Sounds to me like you're trying to convince us and yourself that everything Is cop-esthetic when you know that it's not.

If I were in this situation it would have gone down way differently... For one I'm more inclined to agree with Bleys' approach. But before all that bro... Reach between your legs real quick.... Where are your fuggin balls!?

Why are you sittin back in the cut, like you're not the Alpha male here?? This dude had his shot and messed up! You need to remind her of that, and if you ain't pulling your weight, which it seems that you may not be doing so...(based on the fact that you "thought" somin was up, which caused you to act so insecurely that you posted it on a board)

You need to step up bro... Take the responsibility as the head of that house hold or step back and re-evaluate what you want and walk away! I damn sure would have his punk ass waking up to me being in his driveway the next damned day! You don't get punked like that period, let alone you're not being active towards making her feel secure with you.

To be real... You need to man up and handle your poo period. When you cover your bases, you dint worry about what she does... That way if and when she slips, you walk with a clear conscience. Obviously this situation is over by now, but these thoughts have been going through your head for a minute now... Take it or leave it bro... I'm just tryin to look out.