What would you do?

[Matt Foley]

She was probably just a Canadiens fan

[Johnny Rockets]

everyone in the world is too busy to take a minute to help their fellow man!!!

I would have at least waited to offer assistance, what does that take, perhaps 5 seconds? If she doesn't choose to accept, then you don't have any argument to insist and you need to leave it at that.

I truly wish though that people would start to care a little more about each other!

original answer was going to be.....for a klondike bar

I wouldn't have said anything not because I was to busy, but rather because I don't see it as my business, but I will be the first person to stop and offer assistance with a flat tire. Not that I am right, but that is just how I see it. I try not to get involved on people's personal business. Now if kids are involved, I might have to step in.

[boo7382]

I usually mind my own business in situations like this but that is just my nature. Then I would have driven off and thought about if I should have said something or not.

If she were my daughter I would happy that someone would have asked if she was allright. Then again if she were my daughter and told me the story about some stranger in a van offering his VERY broad shoulders shoulders for support, good intentions or not...I probably would not be happy.

this.

Also, if I was crying in a public place by myself, which I don't think I ever have, I wouldn't want some random ass guy asking me if I need help (no offense sports). Its a nice gesture, but in a situation like that, where I was in a random parking lot on Albemarle Road....yeah I wouldn't be accepting help from anyone.

If she seemed like she was hurt, then I would offer assistance. Otherwise, I would assume she wouldn't need help if she didn't ask for it.

[Hawk]

I sort of disagree Boo...what if she just had an accident and she was trying to get a hold of her parents/significant other? What if she was left stranded by her boyfriend after a big fight? there's many scenarios and ya, maybe most of them would leave you looking like a random creepy person, but there are some that would leave you looking like a thoughtful person too!

[bleys]

I usually mind my own business in situations like this but that is just my nature. Then I would have driven off and thought about if I should have said something or not.

If she were my daughter I would happy that someone would have asked if she was allright. Then again if she were my daughter and told me the story about some stranger in a van offering his VERY broad shoulders shoulders for support, good intentions or not...I probably would not be happy.

yeah.. damned if you do, damned if you don't.. I would have minded my business and thought about it after..

assuming she has a decent support system around her, I don't want to be "that guy".. and more often than not that is the case.

[Panthers_Lover]

Just simply ask if there was anything she needed, then left if she says no.

I've been on the other end before ... bawling my eyes out going through airports trying to get home to my dying brother. I was at once not needing or wanting anyone to "invade" my private grieving and at the same time wanting to spill it all to anyone who would listen. Just the offer was appreciated. (The airline clerk who kept telling me the next flight was booked and I'd have to wait several hours to get on the later one worked a miracle when he understood the immediacy of the situation and got me out in time to get to my brother's bedside. I will be forever grateful to him.)

[Hawk]

exactly...it only takes a second to ask and even that jesture alone might make someone feel a little better

[boo7382]

I sort of disagree Boo...what if she just had an accident and she was trying to get a hold of her parents/significant other? What if she was left stranded by her boyfriend after a big fight? there's many scenarios and ya, maybe most of them would leave you looking like a random creepy person, but there are some that would leave you looking like a thoughtful person too!

Then she would say

help! I just had an accident! can you help me get in touch with people,

or

help! my boyfriend stranded me, hey random person in a parking lot, can you give me a ride?

[boo7382]

Just simply ask if there was anything she needed, then left if she says no.

I've been on the other end before ... bawling my eyes out going through airports trying to get home to my dying brother. I was at once not needing or wanting anyone to "invade" my private grieving and at the same time wanting to spill it all to anyone who would listen. Just the offer was appreciated. (The airline clerk who kept telling me the next flight was booked and I'd have to wait several hours to get on the later one worked a miracle when he understood the immediacy of the situation and got me out in time to get to my brother's bedside. I will be forever grateful to him.)

Airport- totally different situation than a random Target parking lot on Albemarle Road of all places.

I would say something in an airport.

[Hawk]

Then she would say

help! I just had an accident! can you help me get in touch with people,

or

help! my boyfriend stranded me, hey random person in a parking lot, can you give me a ride?

heaven forbid!

[Johnny Rockets]

Just simply ask if there was anything she needed, then left if she says no.

QUOTE]

But what if they don't say "no" and actually want to talk about it? It would be more rude to walk away when they start to tell you their life story then not say anything to begin with right?

So the way I see it, I am sparing them getting more upset by not saying anything at all. ;)

I guess what it comes down to is that I hate drama, and others people drama is that much worse. The person needing the tire changed on the side of the road or the little old lady who needs help loading groceries isn't going to bring drama into my life in most cases.

I do more than my fair share when it comes to helping out my fellow "man" but a crying girl on the phone in a parking lot on Albemarle Rd. = drama of some sort. I need to pick and choose when to pull out my Superman tights and Superman doesn't do drama.

[Johnny Rockets]

Just simply ask if there was anything she needed, then left if she says no.

But what if they don't say "no" and actually want to talk about it? It would be more rude to walk away when they start to tell you their life story then not say anything to begin with right?

So the way I see it, I am sparing them getting more upset by not saying anything at all.

I guess what it comes down to is that I hate drama, and others people drama is that much worse. The person needing the tire changed on the side of the road or the little old lady who needs help loading groceries isn't going to bring drama into my life in most cases.

I do more than my fair share when it comes to helping out my fellow "man" but a crying girl on the phone in a parking lot on Albemarle Rd. = drama of some sort. I need to pick and choose when to pull out my Superman tights and Superman doesn't do drama.

[Mrs Pantherfan]

I think if I really needed help..I would be asking the people around me for help or running into the store to find help

crying my eyes out on the phone could be fighting with a boyfriend or parent. The gesture to ask said crier if they needed help would be appreciated, but honestly if I was that upset and someone interrupted me, I might end up yelling at them..unfortunately

[Mrs Pantherfan]

heaven forbid!

seriously? Unless I had my gun on me..no way in HELL i'm getting into a car with a man I don't know...no offense nice boys on here...but still...no way in HELL