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My roommate

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Wither Newbie

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Well, that's what the girlfriend says. She says if he doesn't want to talk, he doesn't want to talk. But curiosity kills me. It gives me something to do and keeps my mind working.

I probably should just back off, but he doesn't communicate. That is what bothers me. If I am living with somebody, I don't aim to become "best buds" with them, but I want to be able to chill with them and have interesting conversation in the time we do spend in the room at the same time. Otherwise it is boring and pointless. Nothing too deep or thought provoking, or too personal. I could care less about other people's feelings and problems, I just want to know the reasons for them. That is much more interesting.

I'm sure there are reasons. I'm sure he is at least a little weird. But for all you know he comes from a weird family. Perhaps he is the first one to go to college from his family and he has strong ties to home because, well, thats what everyone else does (stays near home). Maybe there is something a little wrong with him and he feels the need to go home to be secure and comfortable.

I don't know, it just seems that you're giving either:

1) Someone with issues a hard time.

2) Someone who has good reasons behind his behavior a hard time.

If he's not a complete weirdo he will eventually do more with you on his own.

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lightsout Grand Master

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some people are just fuging weird, we all are a little weird, but some people take it to a whole new level

my guess is he never had friends in high school

That is another possibility as well that I've considered. Again, don't be like him or my girlfriend and think that I care, because it is not that. It is simply curiosity. I like figuring people out, and fancy myself good at it. But I've never met anybody who doesn't speak. May have to change my approach with him to get him to spew.

I will say, I'm about to have a great night. Storming, not tired, 8 o'clock class. So, the only rational thing is to pull and all-nighter playing games, watching TV, and get to bed early tomorrow. :coolgleamA:

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PhillyB Grand Master

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idk, but good for you for giving a poo about the guy and trying to reach out to him a little. more than likely he's been cast off as a weirdo his whole life, which has simply compounded the social anxiety he seems to have.

you may never figure out why he is the way he is, but trying to involve the guy in your personal life - even if just a little bit - may do more than you'll ever know.

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Matt Foley Newbie

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Maybe he's got a sick relative at home.

Maybe he's got a girlfriend back home who is really young and doesn't want to be judged. When I was a freshman we had a guy on my floor from the sticks whose girlfriend was a freshman in high school. Every time she visited we all gave him poo about it.

Maybe he goes on killing sprees and you are working your way up his list with each question.

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bleys Newbie

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OK, so, let me preface this by saying I have a huge curiosity for understanding people and their behaviors. I believe by understanding other people and how their brains work, you can have a better understanding of yourself. Some people call me an ass for this as they say I come off very forceful.

My roommate is NEVER here. He goes home every weekend (literally, he has been here 1 weekend the entire school year). Now, I love having the room to myself, and I do not care what he does or where he goes. My only question is why. It baffles me how he pays for housing and a 19-meal meal plan, but he only stays 4 nights out of the week and never eats breakfast, so both are pointless. He lives almost 2 hours away, so commuting is a BIT unreasonable, but so is going home every single weekend.

Granted, all of this, I am 21 in my 3rd year of college, and he is a freshman, fresh out of high school. At first, I passed off his awkwardness as being "college jitters" and shyness. He never says anything and his communication skills are seriously lacking. Again, none of this matters to me, just painting the picture for you.

I attempted tonight to understand why he leaves EVERY weekend. He never answered. Instead, he deflected by saying "if you went home every weekend, I wouldn't question you, blah blah blah." So, since I can't get an answer out of him, I start making broad statements about my speculations as to what would lead one to be the way he is. And anytime I mentioned "mommy and daddy" followed by anything (don't care to talk to you, treat you like poo, etc.) he got REALLY defensive and his whole body language shifted to reflect his defensiveness. Also, when I mentioned the word "lonely", the same response occurred.

I have 2 and a half weeks and I can't figure him out. Based off of this knowledge, what do you think? Is there something short of just invading all his personal stuff like his laptop to get an answer that I haven't tried? I like puzzles and weird tendencies, but this kid takes the cake.

chances are extremely high that the kid goes home every weekend to play World of Warcraft with his virtual friends..

I think you're over thinking this kid. He isn't a puzzle to figure out because he doesn't sound that complex.

seems to me like he's pretty easy to figure out..

now if you want to find someone difficult to figure out, go find a woman who has huge commitment issues who is just getting to the point where she's willing to put herself out there again.. good luck!

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