Civil Marriage

[Woodcookedbbq]

Has anybody on here ditched a traditional wedding and got married by a judge, justice of the peace, or other type of officiant?

I'm considering having a judge/justice of the peace marry us and save my money for a big honeymoon. Me and my fiance have discussed it, and she is totally on board with it. She is divorced and said her first wedding (which was a big wedding) was the longest, most stressful day of her life and doesn't want to go through it again. I could care less about a damn wedding. I'm good with doing a courthouse wedding and saving our money to go on a big honeymoon and having a big party thereafter.

What are your thoughts on civil marriage?

[mmmbeans]

i did it. If she's down with it then do it. took us 20 minutes. not the most romantic thing but parties and honeymoons are more fun.

[lightsout]

The woman who calls herself my mother got married to her ex/soon to be again husband that way. I was a witness. Very quick. That is the way a lot of guys I know want to do it, but unfortunately women always want the traditional white wedding. Hey, it saves you money. If she's down, do it.

waits for someone to post a Billy Idol video

[TarPanther9180]

My nephew and his wife did that. They did a big party/reception the following weekend for friends/family. Seems like a good idea if both of you are down with it.

Now, the most important part....how do we talk you out of it?

lol, j/k...congrats

[Captroop]

I haven't met a woman yet who didn' desperately want to be married in a church. I imagine though, for women who have been married several times, it matters a lot less.

Personally, I'd rather get married in a court and use the $40,000 you save on a dream wedding (which is what? 8 hours total?) And go on a month long vacation in some tropical paradise for the honeymoon.

[Zcustom]

Don't all the gays have to do it this way?

[Woodcookedbbq]

Don't all the gays have to do it this way?

Yeah where it's legal. You're not likely to find a member of the clergy to officiate a gay wedding.

[lightsout]

I haven't met a woman yet who didn' desperately want to be married in a church. I imagine though, for women who have been married several times, it matters a lot less.

Personally, I'd rather get married in a court and use the $40,000 you save on a dream wedding (which is what? 8 hours total?) And go on a month long vacation in some tropical paradise for the honeymoon.

Atheist weddings FTW! Outdoor. Clergyman as a formality (and to please the grandparents). No unnecessary songs or praying. 20 minutes tops, in and out. I actually can't wait for that day (since I have to do it eventually).

[Chaos]

If you're all about the honeymoon, then go away to an all-inclusive resort and get married there. My wife and I did a Sandals wedding/honeymoon all-in-one in the Bahamas, and I wouldn't go back and change a thing. It was perfect. We had a small reception for family/friends before hand.

[Purity-Control]

Personally, I'd rather get married in a court and use the $40,000 you save on a dream wedding (which is what? 8 hours total?) And go on a month long vacation in some tropical paradise for the honeymoon.

Yeah I did the courthouse thing, then took the wedding budget & flew close friends and family to Vegas for a 1 week party, then the wife and I spent a month in Kauai.

Loved it!

[rodeo]

Yeah where it's legal. You're not likely to find a member of the clergy to officiate a gay wedding.

It's quite easy actually. A lot of Episcopal, Unitarian, Methodist, Church of Christ, Quaker, Jewish, etc churches will do it with no problems.

[Davidson Deac II]

Thats how my wife and I got married. But we had to hurry because I met her when I was stationed overseas, and she came over on a fiance visa. Had 90 days to get married and she didn't know anyone here anyway. We did get re married in a church later on. I do think she regrets not being able to get married in a church with all her family around, but it was what it was.

It wasn't a big deal to me one way or the other.

[Wither]

Just go to the magistrates office.

Anyhow, you could fly out to somewhere (Jamaica or something) and get married out there. It will actually save you quite a bit of money.

[PanthaSan]

Has anybody on here ditched a traditional wedding and got married by a judge, justice of the peace, or other type of officiant?

I'm considering having a judge/justice of the peace marry us and save my money for a big honeymoon. Me and my fiance have discussed it, and she is totally on board with it. She is divorced and said her first wedding (which was a big wedding) was the longest, most stressful day of her life and doesn't want to go through it again. I could care less about a damn wedding. I'm good with doing a courthouse wedding and saving our money to go on a big honeymoon and having a big party thereafter.

What are your thoughts on civil marriage?

That's what MamaSan and I did. She didn't want a big ceremony and we went to Laughlin, NV. Got married on a cruise boat and partied with our close friends and family there.