Bad Living Situation!

[davos]

Anyone currently experiencing this or has had experience?

B/C I'm currently living with 3 other pretty good friends that I've never lived with before...this began this January. Basically, they think its ok to have friends of friends that they "trust" and think are "chill" just walk into our place at anytime they please. I'll come home, unlock the door, and there will be 7 people in my living room that I have no clue who they are without anyone else in the home.

I'm a pretty social person and like having an open house to my friends, but this is outta hand. I have my recording equiptment here, 3 guitars, electronics, basically a good deal of nice things I don't want to see fugged with. I'm not the type that blows up at people, but I need to find a civil solution to this without starting any problems. Anyone ever have similar issues? possible solutions?

[Zcustom]

I always had my own place, so no.

I hope the person who is renting a room from us right now is happy with their situation though.

[Cat]

Yeah that's a bit extreme. Did one of your roommates step out for a just a minute? Where were they?

[boo7382]

Had this exact same issue happen to me more than once in college. Both junior and senior year.

NOT cool with it at all.

[Hawk]

ask them if they like beer

[Captroop]

Captroop's fool-proof two-step plan:

1.) Gain 45 pounds

2.) Walk around apartment naked

[boo7382]

Yeah those don't work.

The worst is when you come home and there are people chillin in YOUR living room on YOUR furniture that don't live there and your roommate is nowhere to be found.

Had a couple instances where I walked in and said "ok, everyone get the fug out of my house right now"

I could care less if you think Im a bitch, you don't see me comin and chillin at YOUR place when you aren't there

Next thing you know, things are stolen/missing.

Had one instance where I came home from a night at my boyfriend's place and there were people IN MY BED and on the floor of my living room. I have to admit that was a time that I flipped my poo on both them and my roommate.

I had some really really really really bad roommate situations in college. I know now how crazy people are....or maybe its just girls (never lived with guys)

Either way, ^^^this and lots and lots of other occasions like this is why I now live alone.

[davos]

Yeah that's a bit extreme. Did one of your roommates step out for a just a minute? Where were they?

This has happened before. My one roommate will invite a crowd over right before he goes to work of people who are 4-6 years younger than us and leave em there while he goes to work for the night.

So we're talking 19-20 year old college people fluctuating in and out.

[Hawk]

screw that...kick their asses out and straighten them roomies out too....thats bullshit.

[davos]

Yeah those don't work.

The worst is when you come home and there are people chillin in YOUR living room on YOUR furniture that don't live there and your roommate is nowhere to be found.

Had a couple instances where I walked in and said "ok, everyone get the fug out of my house right now"

I could care less if you think Im a bitch, you don't see me comin and chillin at YOUR place when you aren't there

Next thing you know, things are stolen/missing.

Had one instance where I came home from a night at my boyfriend's place and there were people IN MY BED and on the floor of my living room. I have to admit that was a time that I flipped my poo on both them and my roommate.

I had some really really really really bad roommate situations in college. I know now how crazy people are....or maybe its just girls (never lived with guys)

Either way, ^^^this and lots and lots of other occasions like this is why I now live alone.

The funny thing is I had some awesome living situations as an undergrad, great roommates, great party houses...and now as a grad student who's trying to get more focused, I get stuck with a sh*tty situation

[Captroop]

Never a good idea to room with friends. All it ever does is sour the relationship; it rarely ends well.

You have to approach roommates as a business relationship.

Friends will operate on the assumption that anything they do (up to and including asking you to cover their rent this month) will be okay with you because you are friends. Can't work. It's business. Best to go with a casual acquaintance you get along with. You know them so it's not like living with a stranger, and they won't fug you over.

[davos]

Never a good idea to room with friends. All it ever does is sour the relationship; it rarely ends well.

You have to approach roommates as a business relationship.

Friends will operate on the assumption that anything they do (up to and including asking you to cover their rent this month) will be okay with you because you are friends. Can't work. It's business. Best to go with a casual acquaintance you get along with. You know them so it's not like living with a stranger, and they won't fug you over.

Yeah, that's a very true statement.

btw, I just kicked out those kids and man was it fun

[Carolina Husker]

Yeah, that ain't cool. God I'm glad I don't have roommates anymore.

[boo7382]

Yeah, that ain't cool. God I'm glad I don't have roommates anymore.

me too! Living alone is by far the best decision I ever made, its so awesome.

I don't think I can ever go back to living with someone that's not a significant other again.