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First Dates

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bleys Newbie

bleys

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I realize I'm late on this and you're heading out.. but stop whatever you are doing!

I kid, I kid..

but for real.. never go out to eat on a first date.. I know that's traditional, and I expect (haven't read anything in here, could be wrong) a lot of people gave this horrible idea..

worse thing I could ever do to myself is go sit down and force a conversation with a girl I don't know and am prob'ly nervous around already..

go to a comedy club! instead of spending $60 on a 1st date eating out and whatever else you plan to do.. spend some dough on a comedy show and get the endorphins flowing..

If you're of age, a drink or 2 help as well..

And I don't agree with anyone saying break up the double date.. If you want to call it "hanging out" or whatever, yes, that sounds better.. I am a very social person and can relate with a lot of different people of all ages.. but the fact remains a first date is the most awkward thing ever.. you are just meeting the person.. anything you can do to pull attention away from a 1 on 1 conversation is best.. it's rare that you find that person where you just hit it off and you experience some sort of a fireworks show.. she is 20 years old.. until your 28-35, "hanging out" is perfectly fine..

(if you're first thought is "well if it's meant to be, it'll be".. really? so that's how every relationship has went in your life? seriously.. go sit down and forget what the Disney movies tell ya)

if you have a double date, you 4 can hit it off and she'll be just as entertained.. you're job isn't to put everything on the table and show her all these wonderful traits you have right away.. I know it sounds manly and you want to "own" the night.. but f**k that.. you're goal is to get a 2nd date, not prove to the world how bad ass you are..

just my 2 cents.. I tend to hate the traditional bullshit.. I guarantee you'll have more fun doing "fun" things.. most girls enjoy it too because every DB is out there pulling the same stunt..

I took one girl to play miniature golf as a 1st date.. was the only time I've tried it (due to a feeling I had at the time), but she loved it.. said it was one of the best times she's had on a 1st date due to it being different and unexpected.. not all girls would feel that way, then again, the less stuck up/uptight/anal they are the better...

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PhillyB Grand Master

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I'm going on a "date" this Thursday with a girl I met a week or two ago. We met at a party and started talking because my friend is seeing one of her friends. My idea was to have a double date for the first date, since we don't really know each other. And since my friend is broke, it's gotta be cheap, or almost free. So my idea was we could hang out at my house, cook dinner for the girls and watch a movie.

i met a girl one time and was in the same situation as you... i didn't know her that well, we'd just met recently, and a full-blown dinner date seemed like it'd be laying it on too thick. so the first "date" was dinner with her and her roommate and roommate's boyfriend, cooked it at her place and watched a movie. second time i cooked dinner for her at my place and we chilled with some friends.

by the third time we had enough time around each other that a full-blown dinner date was perfectly natural and exciting, lacking any of the awkward tendencies of first-time dates.

ps i just married this girl :)

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bleys Newbie

bleys

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lol

Says the single guy. People who are scared of talking aren't ready to be on a date.

Our first date was Rooster's and bowling.

most of you ginger's are putting yourself in a bad situation sitting across from a girl you just met and eating dinner.. just not a good move..

but to my point, as you seem to agree (maybe from past experience), go bowling or an activity that removes the horrible question/answer scenario that occurs so commonly amongst 2 people who have just met..

there are several reasons to avoid a dinner scenario on a 1st date..

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I have two, leading up to first dates- though the dates themselves were fine.

1. 18 yo, hot Italian chick in Mt. Pleasant, NC. I'm 6'5", walk in their front door and bust my head on a low hanging light. Blood was everywhere. Stopped perfuse bleeding, continued date.

2. 21 yo, didn't care about rules, aka laws. Going to pick her up I passed someone in a no passing zone going double the speed limit. No seatbelt, no license, no registration, etc. 6 tickets and a parked at later I called a buddy who gave me a ride to my parents where I took my dads Lincoln, he was out of town. Got there late, made up awesome story about saving a baby seal and continued with business as normal.

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