First Dates

[Matt Foley]

Sometimes you HAVE to double date. Parole officers can be assholes.

[charlotte49er]

Good lord....she is 20, she does not care about where you go, or what you do...she wants to get drunk/high and screw.

You are not getting married, just college f*cking.

You're right. It's been a very long time since I dated a 20 year old! I'm more used to dating a 40/50 year old.

Of course, a lot of 40-50 year olds just want to get drunk & screw! :yesnod:

There's something to be said about wine me, dine me, 69 me!

[thefuzz]

You're right. It's been a very long time since I dated a 20 year old! I'm more used to dating a 40/50 year old.

Of course, a lot of 40-50 year olds just want to get drunk & screw! :yesnod:

There's something to be said about wine me, dine me, 69 me!

I was just tossing that piece of advice out to everyone in this thread.

Pick her up, go grab a bite at a hole in the wall joint with good food, while eating, have a beer and mention that you forgot she was 20. Ask if she wants to go home chill/smoke/drink up? If she says no, or comes up with any excuses don't waste your time, keep looking.

[hepcat]

I was just tossing that piece of advice out to everyone in this thread.

Pick her up, go grab a bite at a hole in the wall joint with good food, while eating, have a beer and mention that you forgot she was 20. Ask if she wants to go home chill/smoke/drink up? If she says no, or comes up with any excuses don't waste your time, keep looking.

Well I forgot to mention I have a firepit in my yard, and my house is in a really cool spot to hang out. I was planning on grabbing some food or maybe taking her to a desert place because she gets off work at 830 and probably needs time to get ready and stuff...then just take her back to my place and have a fire ready to light and a guitar and bottle of wine sitting nearby. Balla

[boo7382]

Well I forgot to mention I have a firepit in my yard, and my house is in a really cool spot to hang out. I was planning on grabbing some food or maybe taking her to a desert place because she gets off work at 830 and probably needs time to get ready and stuff...then just take her back to my place and have a fire ready to light and a guitar and bottle of wine sitting nearby. Balla

I really hope ur not planning on the Sahara, I hear its terrible this time of year.

[Darth Biscuit]

Well I forgot to mention I have a firepit in my yard, and my house is in a really cool spot to hang out. I was planning on grabbing some food or maybe taking her to a desert place because she gets off work at 830 and probably needs time to get ready and stuff...then just take her back to my place and have a fire ready to light and a guitar and bottle of wine sitting nearby. Balla

Sounds like you need to host a huddle party... I love the mountains this time of year.

[thefuzz]

Well I forgot to mention I have a firepit in my yard, and my house is in a really cool spot to hang out. I was planning on grabbing some food or maybe taking her to a desert place because she gets off work at 830 and probably needs time to get ready and stuff...then just take her back to my place and have a fire ready to light and a guitar and bottle of wine sitting nearby. Balla

Drop the guitar.

There is nothing more annoying than people that think that everyone loves their genre of music. See if she is into what you like to play first before making her uncomfortable, and unwilling to ask you to stop playin.

And make it two bottles of wine, although I would have something else as a backup...many 20 somethings don't really like wine yet.

[Zcustom]

Sounds like you need to host a huddle party... I love the mountains this time of year.

what a great idea, I'm in!

[boo7382]

Drop the guitar.

There is nothing more annoying than people that think that everyone loves their genre of music. See if she is into what you like to play first before making her uncomfortable, and unwilling to ask you to stop playin.

And make it two bottles of wine, although I would have something else as a backup...many 20 somethings don't really like wine yet.

dude I love wine. I love beer too though

[thefuzz]

dude I love wine. I love beer too though

Oh, don't kid yourself, I drink a few glasses a day. However I know that many 20 year olds don't really care for it yet.

[PanthaSan]

Just took some girl out for the first time to the cheesecake factory last week, says she had a really good time, but now everything I do seems to piss her off and she refuses to talk to me anymore. ...bitches

You should have "Put Out". Wimmenz like a good slut.....

[neverlosethefeeling]

Wish I would have seen this yesterday.

I am the love doctor and would have solved all of your problems.

[Skew]

Best idea is to not classify it as a double date, just a hanging out time.

Then if you like her, you can take her on this "first date".

Personally I think you should just get her drunk and see what happens, that way you can save money and time wondering if what she has to offer is worth it...

Kurb is very wise.

He's how it should play out.

Tell her your friend and his girl are coming over for dinner and ask if she'd like to join all of you and hang out (if you do it right, it sounds like the idea just came to you and you thought she might like to join you guys, and you yourself are not thinking it's a date).

Hang out, enjoy the dinner, talk as much to your friend, his woman, and her, giving her the impression it's just friends hanging out.

Later, spend more time talking with her than the others while watching the movie. Then say something like "Hey, would you like to go on a date some night for dinner/movie/band (one where you are not playing)" in a way like the thought just came to you.

This way, she gets the impression, that the dinner is not a double date, (which in my mind isn't if played out like I said), and when you two actually go out somewhere together, you both will feel like that evening is the first date (which it really is).

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[neverlosethefeeling]

Screw watching movies for a least the first few weeks. You need to be getting to know eachother. Talking during movies is very annoying. And she's 20. The last thing she wants to be doing is sitting there twiddling her thumbs during a movie.

If you're a good cook, then by all means cook. If you're marginal though, best to go out somewhere because she probably doesn't like you enough yet to just be able to appreciate the gesture (Like when you've been dating for 3 years, she knows you're miserable at cooking and just thinks it's sweet anyways).

That's probably my worst first date story. I love to cook, and am pretty proficient in the Kitchen. This girl I met freshman year of college and I had a thing for a while. But she had a boyfriend. Finally they break up summer before Sophomore year and I invite her over to the apartment and cook her a great meal. I even remember the menu: Appetizer was a Balsamic reduction w/ fresh parm cheese. Then we had Garlic-parmesean chicken w/ oven roasted potatoes, steamed veggies and a ceasar salad and I made bananas foster for dessert.

She was rude throughout the entire thing and I was really ready for her to leave by the time she finally did. I couldn't figure out for the life of me what it was--she'd never been like that before. Needless to say, I've not talked to her since and that was over a year ago.

Like others have said, somewhere casual is best. You don't have to take her to the Melting Pot. They're not the most intimate, due to the fact that you're at a table with 8 other people, but a Japanese Steakhouse might not be a bad idea. Go somewhere you can be comfortable and don't forget to be a gentleman. Also, decide if you want it to be a date, and if you want her to think it's a date. Your answer to both of those questions should help you out a lot.