In a rut...

[Doyle]

Once?

When I was 19-20 I ran the streets of Asheville. Bear Creek Apts. Good times.

[SorthNarolina]

when people have these problems theres a saying called "fake it till' you make it". Pretend your not in a rut and you will break free. Probably not being confident enough. Don't feel pressured just to get with chicks for the sake of doing it especially if she's a ***** it's not worth it IMO. Go on "dates" with girls even if it's not a date and make sure other chicks know about it. Suddenly they want to wonder what makes you so great. That helps a ton.

[boo7382]

I have been in the same situation myself for a while.

My little sister keeps telling me that once I stop looking for a guy, he will fall into my lap (hopefully not literally)

grocery store, gym, church, any kind of group or club you can join, ask your friends if they know any ladies that you would like, dating website (seriously)

Either way, I feel your pain. Just give it a little while and be patient and they are right, go out and have fun with your buddies.

[sharkkiller]

Leave Asheville and go to downtown Greenville on a Friday night. Bring lots of cash (downtown is expensive) and survey the wonders of 21-25 year old women drunk off their asses.

[hepcat]

I have been in the same situation myself for a while.

My little sister keeps telling me that once I stop looking for a guy, he will fall into my lap (hopefully not literally)

grocery store, gym, church, any kind of group or club you can join, ask your friends if they know any ladies that you would like, dating website (seriously)

Either way, I feel your pain. Just give it a little while and be patient and they are right, go out and have fun with your buddies.

The "stop looking and you'll find him/her" thing is kind of true, in my opinion. I was with a girl recently who called herself "undateable" and I said you're undateable because you THINK you're undateable. A lot of what you get in return is the vibe you put out...

I've learned in my life that if you meet a girl and have no expectations that she tends to be a lot more interested than if all you can think about is her legs wrapped around you.

Same works if you see a cute girl with her friends at the bar and immediately say hello to the least attractive one of them and ignore the cutest. Cute girls get attention all the time...if she sees you're interested in her ugly friend, she might wonder why and come talk to you...

But I think the main problem is guys tend to enjoy the game more than they enjoy actually being with a woman and being sensitive to her feelings.

[hepcat]

Leave Asheville and go to downtown Greenville on a Friday night. Bring lots of cash (downtown is expensive) and survey the wonders of 21-25 year old women drunk off their asses.

If all you're looking for is a quick meaningless bang, this is successful almost anywhere there are drunk women.

[mmmbeans]

I love those....

LOL @ "Iron my shirt Bitch!"

[sharkkiller]

If all you're looking for is a quick meaningless bang, this is successful almost anywhere there are drunk women.

He didn't say he wanted a relationship. Just to get out of the rut he is currently in.

Just walk up to the drunkest one, shake your keys in her face and say, come on, it's time to go.

[mmmbeans]

sheep won't judge you.

[c0r]

lower your standards.

this

[Captroop]

Dance Floor.

Works like gangbusters. You don't need to be one of those douchey showboat, or even a very good dancer, you just need to make yourself available and approachable.

I'll put it in the simplest terms possible: the last time I went out on the dance floor at a club, I got laid that night.

[The Saltman]

Dance Floor.

Works like gangbusters. You don't need to be one of those douchey showboat, or even a very good dancer, you just need to make yourself available and approachable.

I'll put it in the simplest terms possible: the last time I went out on the dance floor at a club, I got laid that night.

the gay nightclub wasn't what he meant.

[Hawk]

stop trying, start living and watch all the amazing things that just happen!!!!

[Captroop]

the gay nightclub wasn't what he meant.

It was a lesbian nightclub. And it was a very, very angry (some might say hateful) lay on her part.