Advice...

[The Saltman]

Rodeo said you have one of those tiny water guns used to squirt cats with.

ya good times....

o wait...

:leaving:

[Boltergeist]

The Saltman posted this at -- wait for it -- 9:11 a.m.! He's a terrorist! :eek:

Salty and his weapons of ass destruction

[The Saltman]

haha

(my how a thread can get derailed by just replying )

im outta here!!

[jasonluckydog]

Exactly.

Take it from the older guys who know.

Honestly, if a girl said that to me, I'd just cancel the visit at the last minute and start making new plans now.

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[thefuzz]

Hey babe, hope the day is going well. Miss you....

Listen, I have been thinking about the no sex thing, and I think there is more to it than that. If you want to talk about it, lets do so, and if not, I don't think that I am going to drive 4 hours this weekend.

pause: and let her start.

[faultlessjoint]

Other posters have pretty much covered everything, but I thought I'd throw in my two cents.

Unfortunately for you, she is probably either going to break up with you, or plans to in the near future. No one and I mean no one says they don't want to have sex for fear of getting pregnant unless its a heat of the moment, don't have any condoms type of thing. But if you're using condoms and pulling out and she says she is worried about getting pregnant, something is up. Maybe she's just tired of the relationship, maybe it's something worse (other dudes). But when a chick says something like that, in that type of scenario, it is not going to end well.

Personally, I wouldn't go see her. Wanting to have sex with a girlfriend or ex that doesn't want to have sex with you is horrible feeling for me. It would be a miserable weekend. However, if you can deal with that and want to talk things out with her, then go for it.

Either way, you're young and in school. Don't torture yourself over it. There's always a better girl. I don't care if this chick is angelina jolie hot, there's still a better one. A better one that wants to sleep with you.

[The Saltman]

lol I never have sex with my wife..but im still with her

[PanthaSan]

If the only thing keeping some of you guys with your women is sex you seriously need to reconsider your relationships.

There's more to a relatioonship than sex?

Whodathunkit...

[lightsout]

Sex is a minuscule part of the problem. Its not the what, its the why. And just to go along with that, all the other factors (communication problems/arguing, the distance, uncertainty, worry, etc.).

I totally agree, sex shouldn't make or break it. But there could be something else to it. I just know her, and no matter if there is something else wrong or not, she wouldn't say. Then, it gets flipped on me that I'm too paranoid.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

You have a right to be paranoid.

How would she act if you had asked this question?

Women DO NOT like being turned down for sex by regular partners.

Men however are more accustomed to it.

Maybe she's having an outbreak.

PS. For extra lol, tell her the weekend break from sex will do you some good.

[PanthaSan]

FWIW, there has been a great deal of good advice. XLightsOutX, I know it prolly took a gut check for you to open up to teh Huddle and I wish I had this kind of guidance about 3 marriages ago...

[lightsout]

There is a lot of good advice here. In case I haven't said it enough, thanks everybody for the input (and Salty for derailing threads. Wouldn't be a thread without that).

[The Saltman]

:thumbsup:

[Porn Shop Clerk]

Honestly, have a heart to heart, and open with the dreaded "I think we need to talk".

And if she says you're being paranoid, ask her why she's always being so dismissive of your feelings when you really just want reassurance that you have a future together.