Advice...

[Goosfraba21]

So you have not seen her in 2 months and it will still be a few weeks before you see her. So basically 3 months. You should both be wanting to rip each others clothes off. It would be hard for me to believe her reasoning when there are condoms and now the morning after pill. If you guys were doing it once or more a week for 4 yrs and she hasn't had it for months and doesn't want it something is up. Now you should get some on the side and even the playing field.

[Cat]

It almost certainly means something and yes I would be worried if you are wanting the relationship to conitinue. But that's about all I can tell you because I don't know enough about you guys or your history to give you more insight.

[Cat]

I hear what you're saying. To be honest, I don't have a lot of faith about it either, cause if I'm going to be in a relationship, I have to have the face-to-face interaction. I hate talking on the phone. We're doing the whole Skype deal, and it helps, but its hard to cover up the fact that we are 4 hours apart. We're both young, and due to us being together for so long, we never really got a chance at dating. But the thing that is holding me to her is just the fact that she has (as cliche and gay as it sounds) always been my best friend. She's helped me through a LOT of crap. And I would hate to give that up, because I have a hard time trusting most people.

Weird, I say that and I'm asking complete strangers for opinions on my relationship. haha. But yeah, our odds of making it are about 40% right now in my eyes, but it CAN work. Just a matter of if we BOTH WANT IT TO. And we won't really know till we are both back at college. I'm considering trying to start playing football again (if I can gain what I have lost since 08 and get back in shape. Then make it through a try out), or being an undergrad-assistant coach to help my resume in the future. So, with those types of commitments, its hard to imagine managing a long distance relationship on top of it.

But good words of wisdom Kurb!

Yeah you need to talk. It's likely you both feel very similar. You guys could remain friends and be tight and who knows maybe one day you'll end up together again but it sounds like you want a break and there's nothing wrong with that. It might be a bit risky but with risk comes reward.

[CharlotteBeer.com]

Sex is a 2 hour part of the day just before sleep/as soon as I wake up.

I think I found out why she doesn't want to have sex.

[The Saltman]

so you havent seen her in 2 months and she doesnt want to have sex with u because u might get her pregnant? there is more to this than you think...Trust me I had a long distance relationship with my wife for a year and a half and everytime we saw each other we were all over each other. Sorry bro but you need to confront her and talk about it and if she isn't giving you straight answers something is up.

[Zcustom]

Either that or he won't be the only one visiting her during that time period

[The Saltman]

yup...sounds like it to me.

[CharlotteBeer.com]

I think there are two possible scenarios here:

1. She has lost interest in the relationship and doesn't feel a strong connection with you. She may be seeing someone else.

2. She genuinely does think that you only go see her for the sex and wants to test you to see if you'll still visit her. If this is the case, I would advise going to see her with no plans to have sex, and instead talk everything out. Either way, it sounds like you guys need to talk.

If you guys were friends for seven years and have only been dating for four months, she may still see you as more of a friend. It's probably even harder for you two to bridge that friend gap when you're four hours apart.

Time to talk it out.

[Matt Foley]

Eject, Maverick, eject!

[lightsout]

I think I found out why she doesn't want to have sex.

Make no mistake, I was counting cuddle time with that.

Thanks for the responses!

[Epistaxis]

1)She is most likely about to bang or has banged someone else.

2) Long distance relationships in young people are a waste of happytime.

3) You can try to find out what is on her mind, good luck with that, she won't likely divulge that she is moving on, but I'm pretty sure she already has.

4) Have a nice visit, part as friends, but the sooner you move on the better off you'll be.

I've been there, I've done that.

[CharlotteBeer.com]

Make no mistake, I was counting cuddle time with that.

Thanks for the responses!

No man counts cuddle time as sex.

[lightsout]

No man counts cuddle time as sex.

Not as sex, but its factored in. I'm just a hopeless romantic. Besides, that's not 1 go 'round. Thats a couple. She isn't hard to get off.

And we have been dating for 4 years. IDK if I typoed and put 4 months earlier in the thread. Just wanted to clear that up.

IDK if she's moved on, but before I moved to the western part of the state again, she did express feelings of worry about us and it felt like she had at least emotionally walked away. She felt stupid when I said "if you're going to walk away emotionally, you're a coward. The difference in walking away and emotionally walking away is that only one of them actually changes anything." But, such is life.

[Kurb]

Not as sex, but its factored in. I'm just a hopeless romantic. Besides, that's not 1 go 'round. Thats a couple. She isn't hard to get off.

And we have been dating for 4 years. IDK if I typoed and put 4 months earlier in the thread. Just wanted to clear that up.

IDK if she's moved on, but before I moved to the western part of the state again, she did express feelings of worry about us and it felt like she had at least emotionally walked away. She felt stupid when I said "if you're going to walk away emotionally, you're a coward. The difference in walking away and emotionally walking away is that only one of them actually changes anything." But, such is life.

I'm sure you are in love with this girl, but you are also in love with an idea. 4 years is a big investment of your life (guessing you are in your 20's). But here is the thing, not every investment works out. I invested 3+ years in this girl once. Chased her for 2 years, dated/gave her best sex of her life for 1. When it was over I looked back and saw all the fun and well tail I missed out on.:mad2:

You are walking away too. Even if you realize it or not. If you weren't you wouldn't have made this thread. You wouldn't have even questioned the not having sex deal. You are walking around campus wondering what this girl would be like and what that girl would be like. :troll:

You are young brother, enjoy it, if this girl is some magical life mate you will end up with her again. I didn't believe in poo like that until I met my wife.