My dad just died

[charlotte49er]

Never easy to lose a loved one. God Bless you and your family!

[Hawk]

JOAT, I have spent the weekend remembering all the good times with my best friend that I lost early Friday morning. First time in a long time that I went back that far and remembered things like basketball trips together, floating down the river one Saturday afternoon with a big bag of spits and a radio...things like that...it made me smile and happy to remember those times!

Hopefully taking the time to do something similar will help you through what I know is a terrible time in your life. Be strong and know that he's in a much happier place now.

[hepcat]

Always good to let your feelings out. Losing is a loved one is hard, but as we all know, is part of life. We love these people in our lives so much even though we know they will be gone one day. Cherish the time you get with them. Best wishes to you and yours on this somber occasion.

[LifeisaGarden]

Thoughts and prayers sent. So sorry for your loss.

[CharlotteBeer.com]

I'll love him always as he was truly one of my hero's and he'll be sorely missed. I thank God he had the opportunity to meet my son Tyler who is now 8 months old, however it crushes me to know that Tyler will have very little memory, if any, or his grandfather and that hurts as much as anything.

Your son my have no real memory of his grandfather, but that doesn't mean he won't know him. You've got, I'm sure, a lifetime of great memories with the guy -- and I'm sure Tyler will come to know a little of his grandfather one day.

I don't know what to say that hasn't been said already, but I'm sorry for your loss and you've got my prayers.

[Samuel L. Jackson]

Sorry for your loss...

[Jackofalltrades]

Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers.

We finally have everything lined up.

This is a strange process where you can't really grieve because there is so much business crap to take care of. Unfortunately dad didn't have a will, the last one he did was updated over a decade ago and no one knows where it is.

The only time I have to really think about things is when I go to bed. Then it's a flood of emotions and I have a hard time containing them. My dad was one of my two best friends, we were very close and I don't know what to do going forward.

I don't know what else to say really. I'm a very talkative guy who usually knows what to say- but I'm lost.

I loved him and it kills me that he died alone in a parking lot, a parking lot that I have to go to 5 times a week.

I really just don't know.

Anyway at least the funeral arrangements have been made and everything is going pretty smoothly in that department.

Thanks again for letting me vent.

[Matt Foley]

If you believe in the hereafter, then you know he's in a better place.

If you don't, then you realize we're all going to join him one day regardless.

What you have to do is drown out all the negative thoughts (like the parking lot...if he hadn't died there, it would have been somewhere else) with positive memories. Start a list. Write down all the wonderful memories and times you shared. You'll be writing through tears, but you'll have a smile on your face. When the tears dry up, the memories live on...forever.

[dimbee]

Damn, so very sorry to hear that, JOAT. You and your fam are definitely in the huddle's thoughts and prayers

[Jangler]

My condolences.

[CosmoGirl]

So sorry, Joat. :hugs:

[Guest Jacob3-89]

My prayers are with you man..

[ladypanther]

There is nothing that can lessen the loss that you feel because your father was so important to you. I am sorry for your pain, and sorry for how lost you must feel right now. Sometime much later, you will know that your pain is a tribute to how close you were to your Dad....and while it will never stop hurting, you will be able at times to appreciate it.

For now, I hope that there is some comfort in the love of friends and family. I hope you will find comfort in your son, who can know his grandfather through you, and who is also special because your father got to love him. You will always share that with both of them.

This is hard. Again, I am so sorry.