Laid-Off

[fitty76]

23 hours ago, DaveThePanther2008 said:

In May of 2019, I got un-expectantly released from a contracting job in Iraq.  Very painful and I lived off unemployment and my military retirement for 4 1/2 months.  I kept plugging and in September of 2019 I got one of the best overseas jobs one can get.  

My point is, be strong, be confident and remember God won't ever give you more than you can handle. Better times are coming. 

Good Luck 

I have to find something soon.  Unemployment is 12 weeks at $350 a week.  I can't live on that.  I asked for forbearance on my mortgage.  So I'll get some relief there.  

[fitty76]

On 3/3/2022 at 1:18 PM, thefuzz said:

I meant get on with a big lender here and work from there.

Not sure if that's possible, but there is a LOT of money heading this way right now.

I'm trying.  I used to work at Wells.  I'm calling around to old bosses.  

[thefuzz]

1 minute ago, fitty76 said:

I'm trying.  I used to work at Wells.  I'm calling around to old bosses.  

I'd be pushing for a commission spot if I could, but I have worked that way for almost 20 years...wouldn't ever take a salary or hourly at this point.

Good luck man...don't know about the money, but SECU is usually hiring, may can just be a placeholder for you for a while.

[onmyown]

On 3/3/2022 at 7:34 PM, Shocker said:

I understand the frustration but you absolutely can leave Charlotte.  It is not impossible and you know that.  It would be extremely hard.  However, don’t feel defeated.  All and I mean all options are open to you now.  Your frame of mind should move to opportunities.  Don’t limit your options.  

This includes switching fields all together.  What do you love doing?  Find something you like doing and you will be great.  Money only matters if you don’t have enough to satisfy yourself 

Maybe, all depends. In state, likely. I don’t know OP situation is or NC law, but if he is divorced or separated, a lot of states will take any custody you have if you move out of state. It happened to my family in Michigan. My dad nearly went bankrupt because of it despite having a great job offer out of state. And he most likely can’t take kids with 

It’s an absurd law considering things like child support. Custody laws are complex and in a lot of ways complete BS for a male.

[PanthersATL]

@fitty76 Standard STAR responses info

STAR is where you speak about a Situation or Task and the Action you took that had Results

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Yes, it's homework. 

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[Paa Langfart]

On 3/3/2022 at 12:28 PM, thefuzz said:

Can you do mortgages?  If not, how long would it take you to learn or get the cert?

If you can write mortgages, you need to be in Wilmington or at least be "out of Wilmington".  TONS of new construction...TONS.

Brunswick County

[toldozer]

13 hours ago, thefuzz said:

No, he needs a job, I'm in that industry, was trying to see if I could help at all...not trying to get him to do anything.

I'm confused as to why they are laying folks off though, especially given this market...that said, if he only works on re-fi's that could be it.  If I were in the lending biz, I'd be working for a Guaranteed Rate, or something like that...eat what you kill type situation...I wouldn't want to be on hourly or a salary.

Definitely the refis.  Even if he's not strictly doing them if that business completely dries up a lot of people are going to get the axe at big companies. 

[thefuzz]

10 hours ago, toldozer said:

Definitely the refis.  Even if he's not strictly doing them if that business completely dries up a lot of people are going to get the axe at big companies. 

Sorta what I was trying to get at...banks are losers...go work in the mortgage industry, not the banking industry.

P.S. we have had a VERY long bull run in the housing and stock markets...and although Covid hit a lot of people hard, the last decade has been a very good one.  We all need some cushion...and we need to make sure that we are living below our means heading into the next 10 years.

[kelvinblunt]

poo so I got laid off last week and I am a mess... I have 3 kids and a mortgage so severance just do for so much... So I'm trying to stay positive and just look for a job like crazy.

At least yesterday I a little bit of fun, one of my kids was taking some maths help classes with an online tutor (not anymore, I can't keep on paying that)... but it's as if the lord knew I needed a laugh. The class was interrupted by the teacher's son walking behind her very visible to the camera, in boxers drinking something and belching his butt off... I laughed so bad (and asked for another session please, I mean I need that money and afterwards the kid couldn't concentrate because he was laughing)...

So at least I got a good laugh, but oh man... Good luck to everyone struggling here, cheers for some good days ahead!

 

 

[Khyber53]

4 hours ago, kelvinblunt said:

poo so I got laid off last week and I am a mess... I have 3 kids and a mortgage so severance just do for so much... So I'm trying to stay positive and just look for a job like crazy.

At least yesterday I a little bit of fun, one of my kids was taking some maths help classes with an online tutor (not anymore, I can't keep on paying that)... but it's as if the lord knew I needed a laugh. The class was interrupted by the teacher's son walking behind her very visible to the camera, in boxers drinking something and belching his butt off... I laughed so bad (and asked for another session please, I mean I need that money and afterwards the kid couldn't concentrate because he was laughing)...

So at least I got a good laugh, but oh man... Good luck to everyone struggling here, cheers for some good days ahead!

 

 

Good luck man! It never rains forever, the sun will shine again.

[kelvinblunt]

On 3/30/2022 at 6:57 PM, Khyber53 said:

Good luck man! It never rains forever, the sun will shine again.

Thanks man, yeah, there's always a silver lining