Civility -- has it become a lost art?

[PanthersBigD]

2 minutes ago, rbsponsel52 said:

These 4 are what the problem is. When someone makes a post/comment they are called stupid or something else just because they don't like it which is what kids do. All of us are adults here (hopefully) and if someone says something it automatically goes to artillery mode from other posters/commenters and the shooting starts. Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill and don't make this all about "YOU" just because you don't like what is commented/posted on here. Many on here hate on the veterans here when a post on Veterans Day( has nothing to do with politics but honors all veterans on this forum for just one day) comes up all hell breaks loose and one day a year will not hurt anyone. Just let the day pass and get back to the normal complain and condemn episodes on what is said everyday afterwards.

Speaking as someone whose family is full of armed services veterans and active duty military, Veterans Day has nothing to do with football either. Post the Thank You Veterans! posts in the Lounge...or Tinderbox if you're looking for debate. The reality is, people don't want to 'just talk about football' in the football forum, they just don't want to be confronted with political views they don't agree with or called out for their own political views they share in a football thread.  

[PantherOnTheProwl1523]

10 minutes ago, PanthersBigD said:

Speaking as someone whose family is full of armed services veterans and active duty military, Veterans Day has nothing to do with football either. Post the Thank You Veterans! posts in the Lounge...or Tinderbox if you're looking for debate. The reality is, people don't want to 'just talk about football' in the football forum, they just don't want to be confronted with political views they don't agree with or called out for their own political views they share in a football thread.  

All this stuff on Kaepernick doesn't either but it is posted because it has to do with the wrongs of society nothing more(not counting the alleged collusion issue)and that has to do with Kaepernick should be in either Tinder or Lounge and not here( has nothing to do with football). . I get your point to and appreciate the response.

[Davidson Deac II]

Regarding the original post, the anonymity of the internet allows the inner jerks in some people to come out.  If you actually go out and talk to people in the non social media world, people still get along fairly well. 

[DeAngelo Beason]

I used to be an avid poster on this board about ten years ago under a different profile and only came back recently out of shear boredom during the slow season at work.  The place became completely intolerable back then, and not much has changed, but I figured I'd just deal with it for the entertainment. 

Everyone is constantly looking to start a fight, and many posters here have balls the size of a bull when hiding behind a keyboard.  I am by no means the sunshine and rainbows type, but it's like walking around on egg shells in here sometimes.

[Burnout189]

General synopsis of this thread:

 

 

[PantherOnTheProwl1523]

3 minutes ago, DeAngelo Beason said:

I used to be an avid poster on this board about ten years ago under a different profile and only came back recently out of shear boredom during the slow season at work.  The place became completely intolerable back then, and not much has changed, but I figured I'd just deal with it for the entertainment. 

Everyone is constantly looking to start a fight, and many posters here have balls the size of a bull when hiding behind a keyboard.  I am by no means the sunshine and rainbows type, but it's like walking around on egg shells in here sometimes.

Problem is many act like they own this forum and nobody has a right to post or comment anything just because they don't like it.

[DeAngelo Beason]

2 minutes ago, rbsponsel52 said:

Problem is many act like they own this forum and nobody has a right to post or comment anything just because they don't like it.

Yep. You just hit the nail on the head.  I literally avoid making new topics because there will be 75 micropenises jumping in to run their mouths asking why I created the topic.

[Davidson Deac II]

10 minutes ago, DeAngelo Beason said:

I used to be an avid poster on this board about ten years ago under a different profile and only came back recently out of shear boredom during the slow season at work.  The place became completely intolerable back then, and not much has changed, but I figured I'd just deal with it for the entertainment. 

Everyone is constantly looking to start a fight, and many posters here have balls the size of a bull when hiding behind a keyboard.  I am by no means the sunshine and rainbows type, but it's like walking around on egg shells in here sometimes.

Not everyone.  I think the majority of posters get along fairly well.  The hyper aggressive ones just tend to be noticed more.  But I have learned that when some posters names pop up, to skip to the next one, because there is a good chance they are trying to pick a fight.

The ironic thing is that if we as a group ignored these types, they would eventually go away and find somewhere else to pick a fight.  But some tend to get drawn in.  I use to, but not so much anymore.

[PantherOnTheProwl1523]

2 minutes ago, DeAngelo Beason said:

Yep. You just hit the nail on the head.  I literally avoid making new topics because there will be 75 micropenises jumping in to run their mouths asking why I created the topic.

 

1 minute ago, Davidson Deac II said:

Not everyone.  I think the majority of posters get along fairly well.  The hyper aggressive ones just tend to be noticed more.  But I have learned that when some posters names pop up, to skip to the next one, because there is a good chance they are trying to pick a fight.

Many that can be named but not going to because the butthurt will start and they know who they are.

[PntherPryd]

1 hour ago, PanthersBigD said:

These faux appeals to 'civility' are just tiresome. No sincere, intelligent person would create a thread appealing to civility and then equate political correctness to cowardice in the first post. 

This thread should be moved to the Tinderbox just like the one that went off the rails the other day, that supposedly inspired this one. 

I would suggest that if they are tiresome to just move on, skip over it, ignore it.  God knows I do that to most of the posts on here.

Nothing the OP did was against the rules, if it gets moved it will get moved because of the reactions.

It's a message board.  People get to post their opinions.  

[rmoneyg35]

Politics have really caused problems in America. It is a big reason for the division.

 

social media, tv and post modernism have ruined this. People want to argue and if you don’t believe exactly what they believe you are a bad person.

[PantherOnTheProwl1523]

27 minutes ago, PntherPryd said:

I would suggest that if they are tiresome to just move on, skip over it, ignore it.  God knows I do that to most of the posts on here.

Nothing the OP did was against the rules, if it gets moved it will get moved because of the reactions.

It's a message board.  People get to post their opinions.  

Tell GJBC that and you will get an unending argument and you are the one wrong.

[Icege]

17 hours ago, bigdavis said:

I gave no political opinion, sir.  I only mentioned political opinions in the context that they shouldn't be on a football discussion board.  Believe me, I have them.  They won't come out here, though.  If they were in the tinderbox, or on another site, I could easily avoid them, if I chose.  But when you're reading a thread on a Panther topic, and somebody throws racial or political anger in, it's jarring.  All I was trying to accomplish was to raise that issue.  The backlash is pretty predictable: the poo throwers are quick to comment; the pie servers do it in relative silence.  A microcosm of society today.

That's due to the rule of 10

If something doesn't go the way somebody wants, they tell 10 people about it.

If something goes the way that they want, they tell 1 person about it.

The attempt at promoting a tighter bond amongst Panthers fans is admirable, but just like a team we are subject to human nature which means there will always be discourse. Best you can do is disengage and let the mouth-breathers throw their tantrums until they do something that gets them banned.

[bigdavis]

Disengagement fully engaged and active, sir.  Just stated my views; never wanted to argue about them.  TY for the sage comment.