Tepper speaks at Carnegie Mellon

[Mr. Scot]

32 minutes ago, MHS831 said:

Many of you are missing a major point about him, based on what I have read.  Some call him ruthless and objective, but there is something about him that I can relate to--he is a survivor of abuse.  I have actually written a book about child abuse and brag that I am most proud of the fact that I broke the cycle of abuse by never hitting or belittling my children.  You have to think beyond your norm, accept a new reality and that reality is based on a strong commitment to your morals and ethics--things the people who are beating you are supposed to be developing.  Fear replaces love, and survival skills replace confidence you get from supportive adults.  When he refers to "breaking the cycle" as his greatest accomplishment in life, that was all I needed to hear about him.  It means he is an innovator, a person who makes decisions based on a code he created and was not taught.  He fights for what he is entrusted to protect without hesitation or mercy.  I  know because I have researched abuse and its victims and survivors.  I will include the link to my book should any of you find interest.  It is about the impact of competition in schools (I am an education professor and abuse survivor) and how it adversely impacts abused and neglected children.  https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Desperation-Competition-Neglected-Children/dp/0761839933

Didn't miss that.

And one point I think it indicates: Not sure how he'll be when it comes to general character concerns (one analyst, I forget who, said he'd probably be about the same as the Panthers have historically been) but I'd guess that anyone with any sort of domestic violence related issue need not apply.

[Kevin Greene]

1 hour ago, t96 said:

Big splashes like that are risks and actually really quite new in the sport. Yes many dumb owners do it nowadays but they never ever did in the past. To make this a bit easier, give me an example of something new that you think he may do compared to owners back in the day and how the Steelers and we have run things in general. Can you see him hiring a 30 year old like McVay or Shanahan? Or hiring a former player/analyst as GM? I really can't see that happening at all. I'm talking team building philosophy and philosophy on the field. Can you see a team under him building a top 3 offense while mostly ignoring the defensive side of the ball. That is a more new/progressive way to run a team. I can't see him doing that, based on what has been reported about him and his history with the Steelers. Yet to be seen but that's my guess.

Let's start with blowing out Marty Hurney. Here is a proven GM failure who left this team his first go around in shambles and in long term cap hell. Sure Richardson brought him back, probably because due to NFL insiders info no one would accept a position with this team knowing what was ahead for Richardson who is now leaving the NFL in disgrace. 

If Hurney survives Tepper's first month of ownership Tepper has already failed his first, most important test.

[MHS831]

27 minutes ago, Mr. Scot said:

Didn't miss that.

And one point I think it indicates: Not sure how he'll be when it comes to general character concerns (one analyst, I forget who, said he'd probably be about the same as the Panthers have historically been) but I'd guess that anyone with any sort of domestic violence related issue need not apply.

the way you overcome it--because your sense of normal is distorded and you don't trust anyone (if your parents will hurt you, everyone will)--you develop your own core values and ethics--you NEVER depart from that core.  That is pretty much the only way you overcome the indecision and pave your way.  While some call it cocky or cut throat, it is really survival.  You never get over it--as Tepper demonstrated.  I think you are right about domestic violence folks need not apply, but anyone who tries to dominate him in any way will be met with unpleasant retaliation.  You trust very few people, you are your own army--this is not to say that is a bad thing-- it makes you ethical and unable to be swayed or influenced.   It means that you overcame vulnerability and still seek validity.  The ex-wife house razing and reconstruction, for example, is understandable to me.  She betrayed him in some way and he wanted to erase the memory.  Fascinating.

[steven8989]

35 minutes ago, Kevin Greene said:

Let's start with blowing out Marty Hurney. Here is a proven GM failure who left this team his first go around in shambles and in long term cap hell. Sure Richardson brought him back, probably because due to NFL insiders info no one would accept a position with this team knowing what was ahead for Richardson who is now leaving the NFL in disgrace. 

If Hurney survives Tepper's first month of ownership Tepper has already failed his first, most important test.

Yeah well you can forget that lol he will be here at least this year.

[unicar15]

This guy is gonna get a SB...

[Mr. Scot]

47 minutes ago, MHS831 said:

the way you overcome it--because your sense of normal is distorded and you don't trust anyone (if your parents will hurt you, everyone will)--you develop your own core values and ethics--you NEVER depart from that core.  That is pretty much the only way you overcome the indecision and pave your way.  While some call it cocky or cut throat, it is really survival.  You never get over it--as Tepper demonstrated.  I think you are right about domestic violence folks need not apply, but anyone who tries to dominate him in any way will be met with unpleasant retaliation.  You trust very few people, you are your own army--this is not to say that is a bad thing-- it makes you ethical and unable to be swayed or influenced.   It means that you overcame vulnerability and still seek validity.  The ex-wife house razing and reconstruction, for example, is understandable to me.  She betrayed him in some way and he wanted to erase the memory.  Fascinating.

I failed to say I'm sorry for what you had to endure. My apologies for that.

What you say here makes a lot of sense.

[MHS831]

15 minutes ago, Mr. Scot said:

I failed to say I'm sorry for what you had to endure. My apologies for that.

What you say here makes a lot of sense.

No apologies necessary, but I appreciate it.  I have been researching this topic and speaking at conferences for two decades, so you think it would get easier--There are times when it blindsides you like it did Tepper. 

[Mr. Scot]

2 minutes ago, MHS831 said:

No apologies necessary, but I appreciate it.  I have been researching this topic and speaking at conferences for two decades, so you think it would get easier--There are times when it blindsides you like it did Tepper. 

Not something I experienced myself, but sad to say I'm acquainted with (in some cases related to) a lot of people who have suffered one form of abuse or another.

I can't recall any of them ever suggesting that it got easier either.

[GRWatcher]

Something I sensed too from his speech was that he has empathy, especially for suffering. He gave to the Sandy storm victims, gave to Texas, Florida, and Puerto Rico hurricane relief. He has a charitable foundation whose focus is feeding the hungry and improving education.

[jasonluckydog]

If he'll give me a few hundred k I'll like him.

[The Pieyed Piper]

sounds like this guy is one vote from anti-christ.

[ickmule]

All you guys trying to guess how he will run the team.  What a waste of time.  He will run it how he runs it and none of us have one clue. 

[4Corners]

16 minutes ago, ickmule said:

All you guys trying to guess how he will run the team.  What a waste of time.  He will run it how he runs it and none of us have one clue. 

Basically this. It’s what worries me when you hear the local and national beat writers tweeting and commenting that Tepper isnt going to make waves, not going to change much, etc. makes me thnk the opposite.  

[Rubi]

5 minutes ago, 4Corners said:

Basically this. It’s what worries me when you hear the local and national beat writers tweeting and commenting that Tepper isnt going to make waves, not going to change much, etc. makes me thnk the opposite.  

Like we wake up in 3-4 years and the team is moving