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Piercing ears for baby girl


Ja  Rhule

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My wife said that when our daughter brought it up and wanted them we would let her, as long as she understood what was happening.  It was unexpected that she asked so quickly, She is 3 and asked right before her birthday.  We sat her down and explained what happens.  We took her and let her watch several children get done, including a very small baby.  Once she was comfortable, she said lets do it. She's a fuging boss. Then we got ice cream.  

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My wife said that when our daughter brought it up and wanted them we would let her, as long as she understood what was happening.  It was unexpected that she asked so quickly, She is 3 and asked right before her birthday.  We sat her down and explained what happens.  We took her and let her watch several children get done, including a very small baby.  Once she was comfortable, she said lets do it. She's a fuging boss. Then we got ice cream.  

The problem is, at 3 she would ask for a unicorn with equal or greater conviction and knows with absolute certainty that she wants to feed ducks for a living when she grows up.

 

Even at 10 they rarely understand the ramifications of decisions that have an impact much beyond filling their stomach or which cartoon makes them happy.

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The problem is, at 3 she would ask for a unicorn with equal or greater conviction and knows with absolute certainty that she wants to feed ducks for a living when she grows up.

 

Even at 10 they rarely understand the ramifications of decisions that have an impact much beyond filling their stomach or which cartoon makes them happy.

To each their own.  Like I said, she asked about piercing her ears and we educated her to the consequences and responsibility. Part of your job as a parent is to teach lessons.  She knew it was going to hurt and when it did her little eyes welled up and she looked at us and I thought maybe we were wrong.  She didn't make a sound and got right off the chair smiling and happy.  I'm sure that wouldn't be everyone's experience but it was mine and that's what OP asked.  She earned those earrings.  Did I think she would get them at 3? absolutely not, did I think it would go over well? absolutely not.  Does she know that unicorns aren't real? Yes. 

 

and she wants to be a Princess for a living.  

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Both of ours were in 3rd grade before we let them do it.  It's a responsibility and they should be old enough to take it on.

totally agreed here, but we let ours get hers pierced on her last day of kindergarten. it was totally something that she wanted to do and we (my wife and i) felt like she was able to take care of it herself. i wasn't crazy about the idea of it and would rather have waited until she was about 10, but i caved. the way she asked me and how she felt about it (i mean it was a surprisingly big deal to her) and knowing that she was responsible enough to take care of some other things helped with the decision to let it happen.

my wife had to remind her to take care of it just a couple times after it was done but after that she was fine. i don't really have a problem with parents having it done on their babies, but it's not something i would do with one of ours because i would rather it be something that they decided they really wanted.

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My wife wanted to get our daughters ears pierced right out of the womb and I was not down and I am still not down.

My rule is that when she can ask for it and thoroughly understand what is going to happen, she can have them. I agree with the sentiment that doing it to them before they can consent is abusive and pointless. 

i don't know that i would call it abusive, but other than that i agree.

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i don't know that i would call it abusive, but other than that i agree.

If inflicting pain and creating a wound that, if not properly taken care of, can become infected and result in hearing damage to someone who can't consent to the procedure isn't abusive then what is? 

Would you think it abusive to pierce a baby's septum or lip? What about gauging a baby ears? 

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