F'n A

[CelibatePimp]

You will long for that pussy in a week or two.

[Mol3m4n]

Don't understand why you would want to be with someone you can't envision the rest of your life with. You did the right thing.

[davos]

I'm incrementally feeling like crap today even though I shouldn't.  Ugh.  I need some new you know what from a new one this week.  But I shouldn't have to rebound since I was seeing others during this but dag nabbit the feels haha.  I think I'm more mad about how I looked weak at the end of the dealio.        

[CelibatePimp]

Apparently I was way off on my prediction. Nothing like sex after a "break-up".

[davos]

Apparently I was way off on my prediction. Nothing like sex after a "break-up".

Don't text an ex drunk on a Monday.  Yikes did I just get the grip (previous gf, not the one in the OP haha)

[Lumps]

Ok here's where you went wrong, you waited 6 months. You let interest in other people or situations get in the way. I have a feeling you wanted to be something with her 1-2 months after you met. Now I realize that's too fast for some people. But it's too fast for usually one reason and that's that they're interested in seeing what else is out there, given they're not too busy with life or whatnot but we make time for what we want. Personally, I get straight to the point when I'm interested in someone. 1-2 months and that's really all I need. I'd rather give it a shot and see if it works than drag my emotions through the next 6 months not knowing. Sometimes it doesn't work out, but that's ok. If someone tells me they're not ready yet or whatever I move on, you're interested or your not. You brought this on yourself, you have to be more decisive IMO.

[Lumps]

Dot sweat it. There are TONS of people out there, sounds like you didn't lose anything special. Learn and carry on.

[davos]

Ok here's where you went wrong, you waited 6 months. You let interest in other people or situations get in the way. I have a feeling you wanted to be something with her 1-2 months after you met. Now I realize that's too fast for some people. But it's too fast for usually one reason and that's that they're interested in seeing what else is out there, given they're not too busy with life or whatnot but we make time for what we want. Personally, I get straight to the point when I'm interested in someone. 1-2 months and that's really all I need. I'd rather give it a shot and see if it works than drag my emotions through the next 6 months not knowing. Sometimes it doesn't work out, but that's ok. If someone tells me they're not ready yet or whatever I move on, you're interested or your not. You brought this on yourself, you have to be more decisive IMO.

You hit the nail on the head man.  We were hot and heavy for the first month and a half and then it was established she didn't want a relationship.  She's a night nurse and has little free time and works like 7-day 60+ hr weeks with sometimes a Monday off.  So I was pissed about it ending but got over it in a week or so...then some time passed but then started back up again from me just wanting the action.

 

I called her up and she was down to start hanging out again but it was obviously a one-sided deal.  The routine: When I would be on a dry spell, I'd basically hit her up, we'd go to a concert/bar then to my place.  When she first asked why I came back, I told her I just enjoyed hanging out but was cool keeping it easy and not trying for a relationship (I think I lied to myself).  The thing was, I knew the chemistry was fading.  I shouldn't of restarted things and I know better because I did the same thing a few years back with an actual ex.  Then I get drunk with her this past weekend but couldn't go through with it when we met up with her guy friends (one of which totally wants her).  At least I ended it as cringe-worthy as it was. 

 

I knew exactly what I did but kept going...need to practice some restraint big time and cut the cord when it's clearly not going anywhere. 

[Lumps]

You hit the nail on the head man.  We were hot and heavy for the first month and a half and then it was established she didn't want a relationship.  She's a night nurse and has little free time and works like 7-day 60+ hr weeks with sometimes a Monday off.  So I was pissed about it ending but got over it in a week or so...then some time passed but then started back up again from me just wanting the action.

 

I called her up and she was down to start hanging out again but it was obviously a one-sided deal.  The routine: When I would be on a dry spell, I'd basically hit her up, we'd go to a concert/bar then to my place.  When she first asked why I came back, I told her I just enjoyed hanging out but was cool keeping it easy and not trying for a relationship (I think I lied to myself).  The thing was, I knew the chemistry was fading.  I shouldn't of restarted things and I know better because I did the same thing a few years back with an actual ex.  Then I get drunk with her this past weekend but couldn't go through with it when we met up with her guy friends (one of which totally wants her).  At least I ended it as cringe-worthy as it was. 

 

I knew exactly what I did but kept going...need to practice some restraint big time and cut the cord when it's clearly not going anywhere. 

You're not alone. It happens to us all from time to time. My words of advice are to be more decisive which mean lay it out on the table and be willing to cut the cord if she's not wanting to try it out. More good advice would to be take things slow. BUILD your relationship with one another, don't just dive in. Not only does that make knowing what lies ahead much more clear, you're also not neck deep when in comes time to dive in or cut the cord, and so that make the choice much easier. And never lie to yourself. Your instincts and intuitions are always right regarding your emotions.

 

If you aren't strong enough to man your ship, go pick up some slut at Bar Charlotte an hour or two before closing. Go take on a one night stand. Don't have sex with anyone you have history or feelings for, including friends.