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The first one dude easy. You already admitted that you're both whores so it's not really fair to judge her on that. I think how you described your time with her is basically what most people want in a relationship. Everyone's different and the way you perceive an attraction to someone is always unique. They don't always have to be super smart or ridiculously hot. But if they are the right combination and keep you guessing and challenge you as a person then they are good for you.

 

I dated a girl last summer that I  felt like I had a real solid click with. For the first time in a while. She wasn't the most attractive person in the world but she had one of the most interesting and fun personalities I've come across. To me that made her beautiful. She ended it. I got pissed and now I'm a bondafide slut. But I still think about her sometimes because she is type of person I want down the road.

 

I would think about each girl your seeing and think about how it would be without them. Gauge how much they mean to you man and if you are being fair to them at the same time. If you saw them with someone else, how would that make you feel? 

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Ok so I met this girl, I've been with a lot of girls and I always thought the girl

I'd settle down with was less experienced. This girl has been with a lot of guys though but the problem is our compatibility, we're crazy for one another, totally get along and feel so comfortable around one another it's creepy. Spending the day looking at one another wondering what could be is fun, but the negative is the downfall will be so much harder.

At the same time I have another girl I'm seeing, doesn't have the body of the first girl or the attractiveness going on but in the intellectual department she is unmatched we connect intellectual so well just spending the day talking is so much fun.

Then there's that third girl who intellectually isn't there and attraction isn't quite there either but sexually it's like one person exists. Our sex is the best ever, it will never get better. When you're away all you do is crave the sex but you know there is not intellectual or physical attraction and the relationship is doomed for failure regardless of sex.

Which do you chose and why? Attraction as a feeling of potential, intellectual compatibility that will never end, or as straight up sex and physical compatibility?

Keep in mind you chose one and you lose the others.

 

My biggest question.

 

 

Why do you know how many sexual partners the 1st one has had?

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Dear god what a drunk thread lol. But the dilemma still exists, and appriciate all the help and advice and it is suprising to me how good and non shallow huddle advice is for the most part.

 

 

Can't quote you because you quoted so many people but I think you listed the first girl first because you like her best, just my hunch.  That's what I'd do if I was ranking women I was seeing, list the one I liked best first.

 

I like the potential with her the best. But I cant tell if she is just fuging hot and so everything else seems better. I like them all in different ways.

 

if i was in your situation and forced to choose, it'd be the intellectual one, hands down. intellectual curiosity is an extremely important component of a relationship for me, and things like sex are amplified by the chemistry of the mind. things like looks become similarly amplified; a decent looking girl becomes hot as fug once you realize she's smart as hell and you'll never get bored of her.

 

but montsta is right. don't settle.

 

I feel like the people who ay don't settle are the ones who end up alone. All you married guys haven't settled in any area? Really? I find that hard to believe. I do like the intellectual one. But it can cause issues... when I'd rather talk and she wants to mess around lol. In all seriousness, I think it's between #1 and #2. Classic hot chick vs. smart chick.

 

Yes, it exists.

Also, the fact that what you consider one to be intellectual, yet she isn't smart enough to figure out you're nailing two other chicks tells me something. You don't marry a girl you meet at the club.

 

May exist, but just how damn hard is it to find? Again, back to settling. I have a hard time believing none of you married guys or LTRs have not settled in any way. As far as figuring out im with two other chicks, none of the girls have had the talk with me yet...the 'exclusive' talk. So it's just casual...except the sex girl who is pissed I won't be exclusive...maybe all emotion is what makes the sex so great lol. The time is coming soon though...for all of them. I can feel it when they talk to me and look at me.

 

And you're damn right, you don't marry a girl like that. There is wife material and hump and dump. I'm well aware of the difference. I didn't meet any of them in the club and none of them would be in one. In the past, #1 probably would have been though.

 

 

On a scale of 1-10, how attractive are they all?

If they are close on the scale, the intellectual one wins easily, but this sort of thing is important in choosing.

If the first is a 9, but the other two are 5s, then I think it is clear.

 

Lol I love the I'm not shallow comment right before this....

 

#1 is a 9, possibly 10...very few flaws physically. Makes sense given her 'history'. Sex is good because she's hot. Conversations are OK.

#2 is a 7, Asian girl vey intellgient, calm, kind of reserved. Sex is OK, will probably get better if I can convince her to let go. Conversations are amazing, mindgasm.

#3 is also a 7/7.5 and a sex goddess. Very outspoken, aggressive/affectionate, doesnt have an extensive history. Known her the longest. Sex is mind blowing, only one of the three all day of sex is not only easy but expected. Up for anything, brings female friends to join in. Conversations are like a brick wall or an argument if we arn't having sex...we're not doing anything.

 

 

Not so clear eh?

 

 

which one can cook?

 

Believe it or not. The sex girl, #3 cooking is out of this world and always does it right after sex lol. She is a pleaser.

 

 

Doesnt matter if they all find out about one another.

 

You're damn right. Although none of them are 'exclusive', and theyre aware of that; knowing about one another I am 100% certain would end each relationship lol. Funny.

 

 

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Just keep banging all three.

 

 

When you find one that you don't have to ask a bunch of strangers which one to pick you'll know.

 

Lol....keep banging all 3 he says....lol

 

you have no idea what hell you are asking for by doing that lol...seriously are you insane?

 

Oh, im not asking you guys, I was ready for the jokes, and was drunk as hell as I am now...not quite as much....but I'm just observing reaction to the dilemma more than taking what huddlers say and rolling with it lol , im drunk, not stupid.

 

 

I would say choose the one that you find yourself thinking about when you are with the other too.

 

If you find yourself wondering what one of them is doing while you are with the other two, then that is the one you should be with.

 

Now this is a good answer...going to have to think on this.

 

 

The first one dude easy. You already admitted that you're both whores so it's not really fair to judge her on that. I think how you described your time with her is basically what most people want in a relationship. Everyone's different and the way you perceive an attraction to someone is always unique. They don't always have to be super smart or ridiculously hot. But if they are the right combination and keep you guessing and challenge you as a person then they are good for you.

 

I dated a girl last summer that I  felt like I had a real solid click with. For the first time in a while. She wasn't the most attractive person in the world but she had one of the most interesting and fun personalities I've come across. To me that made her beautiful. She ended it. I got pissed and now I'm a bondafide slut. But I still think about her sometimes because she is type of person I want down the road.

 

I would think about each girl your seeing and think about how it would be without them. Gauge how much they mean to you man and if you are being fair to them at the same time. If you saw them with someone else, how would that make you feel? 

lol...ok yea I knew this would come up....let me rephrase....I have been with a lot of chicks and COMPARED to me this hot chick has been with a lot of guys. Now thats a lot of damn history and I mean A LOT. It makes me uneasy, it makes me question things, like should I be giving up the other two for a run with her, know what I mean? I'm not jusdging her as a person but more so weighing my decision. I'm not a ***** or I wouldn't have standarrds lol, this post, and the fact i wont bang all 3 forever is proof.

 

I totally understand how you feel about that chick...I had an ex a while back who was the exact same way, not so hot but damn her personality was so fun, no matter what we're doing...have to say the intellectual chick is closest to that.  Good points on what to think about...definetley.

 

 

My biggest question.

 

 

Why do you know how many sexual partners the 1st one has had?

 

Yes. I know what all three have had. That is something I ask, before I consider getting serious with them, thats important to me, but I also consider their age. I am not a judgmental person, but at the same time asking those quesstions have allowed me to side step a few landmines....women who have done stuff for money or women with 50+ partners and multiple partners on more than one occasions...just can't do that.

 

The sex goddess, believe it or not has had the least....but she is much younger than I am. The intellectual has had average amount, what I expect, the hot chick has had....more than any other girl I've ever dated. I am 29 years old.

 

Looks like you are trying to take the BPA with chicks route.

If so, you need more ways to truly separate them.

Although it sounds more like a sociological study but i digress.

 

Maybe I should contact Gettlemen to help a bro out.

 

 

Which one has the most attractive pink flaps ?

 

Lol, I don't know why, but I am going to answer this. The intellectual (#2).  Arsen might attest to this...Asian women that is. But it doens't matter to me lol.

 

 

Have farewell parties with the 3 and a short time later tell them it isn't them its you. then go with the intellectual and don't look back.

 

No need, the sex goddess #3, I had my second threesome ever and first foursome with her friends, which is quite ironic because she demands to be exclusive lol. A little advice, three women, is too much...two however....

 

A foursome with all of them...good lord thats like...genius.

 

If you are looking to settle down go with the one you like being around. If you are not ready for that go with the sex

 

Agreed. Problem. The sex goddess is the most serious about settling down. Like wtf.

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CRA Grand Master

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How old you are and at what stage of life you are in...would impact which girl I would pick

Correct choice changes based off that IMO

Edit - saw your age. Girl number 2 is the pick. Only one that has the potential for you to not grow tired of. (That assumes one day you would eventually like a family)

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CRA Grand Master

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Can't turn a hoe into a housewife... eliminate choice 1

And choice 3 he admits to not really being that physically attracted to her or intellectually attracted to her......only a matter of time before that great sex becomes "eh, pretty good"

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