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PhillyB

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I don't have any friends anymore. In the past 4 years my friends have, in order: become paralyzed alcoholics and lost contact with world; moved to Baltimore; moved out of the country; is still acting like he did in high school and we can no longer relate; relocated to UVA to get his Masters; and became such an asshole that I finally realized I get more upset by spending time with him than I do having fun with him and I've cut him off.

 

All I want to do if have a guy friend that I can go throw a football around with after work, talk about sports and drink scotch. But I'm honestly back at ground zero. I'm like a guy who's back on the dating scene after being married for 20 years. I have no idea how to make male friends anymore.

 

I love my girlfriend to death, but I need a go-to guy-so badly. Someone I can talk to when I need to talk about my girlfriend. And I love her, but she won't drink scotch at all. Can't even stand the smell of it. WTF is up with that?

 

And I'm also concerned because I want to get married to my girlfriend, but who the fug would be my best man?

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My mothers side is prone to depression. My mother has been on anti depressants for over 20 years. And I unfortunately have that imbalance. I've found ways to stay off meds and keep focused and enjoy life and that's by keeping my mind and body busy.

Some of you may have read the thread about me living in a cabin in the woods for about 8 months by myself and it was a big test for me. Long periods of isolation where it was up to me to not curl up and feel sorry for myself, even though the isolation was self induced. I came out of those woods and back into society a different person and with a different mindset on life. It took a hell of a lot of willpower to start over from scratch. I wrote a lot, played the guitar till ungodly hours at full volume, listened to music and watched movies that inspired me.

I broke up some of that isolation by traveling the east coast and some western parts of the country living out of my car. I people watched a ton. I looked at every seemingly happy person and wondered how they got there. I talked to a lot of people about life. Visited an old college buddy who was two weeks into withdrawal from heroin and cocaine and we talked the entire night in key west about life and what we wanted from it.

In all honesty I was probably depressed before I quit my job and moved to that cabin. I was just generally unhappy with what I was doing and what I had become. Maybe it was more of a midtwenties crisis.

It's something that I have to keep in check from time to time. But I've found exercising, staying mentally active(huddle, reading, movies, current events (even if those are depressing too lol)) and going back out into the wilderness (hiking, camping) really help my mood and overall mindset on life. Find your passion(s). do what makes you happy and most importantly find people that share those things in common with you. Easier said then done though, right?

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I don't have any friends anymore. In the past 4 years my friends have, in order: become paralyzed alcoholics and lost contact with world; moved to Baltimore; moved out of the country; is still acting like he did in high school and we can no longer relate; relocated to UVA to get his Masters; and became such an asshole that I finally realized I get more upset by spending time with him than I do having fun with him and I've cut him off.

 

All I want to do if have a guy friend that I can go throw a football around with after work, talk about sports and drink scotch. But I'm honestly back at ground zero. I'm like a guy who's back on the dating scene after being married for 20 years. I have no idea how to make male friends anymore.

 

I love my girlfriend to death, but I need a go-to guy-so badly. Someone I can talk to when I need to talk about my girlfriend. And I love her, but she won't drink scotch at all. Can't even stand the smell of it. WTF is up with that?

 

And I'm also concerned because I want to get married to my girlfriend, but who the fug would be my best man?

 

I got you bro.

 

Can I wear my Cam jersey to the wedding tho?

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I don't have any friends anymore. In the past 4 years my friends have, in order: become paralyzed alcoholics and lost contact with world; moved to Baltimore; moved out of the country; is still acting like he did in high school and we can no longer relate; relocated to UVA to get his Masters; and became such an asshole that I finally realized I get more upset by spending time with him than I do having fun with him and I've cut him off.

All I want to do if have a guy friend that I can go throw a football around with after work, talk about sports and drink scotch. But I'm honestly back at ground zero. I'm like a guy who's back on the dating scene after being married for 20 years. I have no idea how to make male friends anymore.

I love my girlfriend to death, but I need a go-to guy-so badly. Someone I can talk to when I need to talk about my girlfriend. And I love her, but she won't drink scotch at all. Can't even stand the smell of it. WTF is up with that?

And I'm also concerned because I want to get married to my girlfriend, but who the fug would be my best man?

Good stuff and this is under the radar for guys. You can wake up one day and not have a fellow dude to be a dude with.

Scotch and football...thats how you roll in Maryland.

Sent from my SPH-L710 using CarolinaHuddle mobile app

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I got you bro.

 

Can I wear my Cam jersey to the wedding tho?

 

Frankly I would be offended if you didn't.

 

Good stuff and this is under the radar for guys. You can wake up one day and not have a fellow dude to be a dude with.

Scotch and football...thats how you roll in Maryland.

Sent from my SPH-L710 using CarolinaHuddle mobile app

 

DC, actually. Moved into Columbia Heights last October.

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I know I've used the Huddle before to ask for help, although usually girl related/silly things. Luckily had some good responses and advice on here, Facebook, and other places from Huddlers that meant a lot.

 

It's weird how message boards, but mostly the Huddle for me, become a little community that you turn to almost initially when a problem comes up. Good thread idea. 

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