What the hell is wrong with women?!

[Peppers90 NC]

squirters.

[Darth Biscuit]

I recommend to all the youngins just bypass those in training for the hot teachers ready for class...

 

 

 

/pies self

 

 

Best thing the young women can do is find an older guy...  we have the knowledge they seek.

[bleys]

Best thing the young women can do is find an older guy...  we have the knowledge they seek.

 

and so it all comes full circle...

[PanthersBigD]

lol did i strike a nerve there buddy

 

especially since i'm on a message and nobody gives a fug what i have to say about anything anyway

 

now take your insecurities and give them to someone else

 

Not at all. I'm pretty satisfied with my sex life, but I'm always open to learning more, even from a message board. If you read the first few pages of this thread, the question was posed as to why guys don't talk frankly with one another about sex, and then you went and started posting perfect examples. It's the same with any topic really. No one wants to discuss something with a sarcastic know-it-all, especially a topic that many are insecure about. It's tedious and annoying. The irony is, a year or two ago, in a different thread, you conveyed some very good suggestions on sex toys, and didn't sound like a total douche about it. So thanks for that.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

maybe its because when guys like me are open and honest, guys like you are intimidated and seek to suppress it.   you're the problem, not me.

 

lots of guys get uncomfortable when i discuss sex.  women, not so much.

[Porn Shop Clerk]

and i have A LOT of experience talking to all kinds of people about sex 

[PanthersBigD]

and i have A LOT of experience talking to all kinds of people about sex 

 

LOL, of course you do. And your post count tells me that you do most of it on the Internet.

[Mr. Scot]

any of the women here wish to comment?

 

what i have learned, that girls either love sex or dont care about it.  my hunch is either way it stems from childhood. 

 

I always seem to wind up with the former.

 

 

I stand corrected. Apparently men suck at talking about this kind of stuff and its all on us women.

Great.

 

Not entirely true.

 

Like a lot of men who are either married or in committed relationships, I don't feel comfortable or appropriate discussing sexual things with a woman who's not my girlfriend, especially if she's someone else's girlfriend or wife (which most of the female friends in my circle are).

 

With my girlfriend though, she and I can talk about pretty much anything.  We're both adults and have both been married before, so we're pretty open in our discussions.

 

On the internet with strangers, it's a little more free but I still have my limits.

[Mr. Scot]

loss of sex drive is a legit thing. hell japan has a national culture that's increasingly asexual and is projected to cause fundamental demographic problems down the road.

 

hell i'm halfway asexual at this point; between a one-year-old, mismatched schedules with my wife, school, massive amounts of stress, and a general engine for accomplishing goals that often makes me feel like sexual indulgences are a waste of time and nothing more than an annoying itch to scratch at, it's definitely an incredibly deemphasized activity in my life as compared to, say, ten years ago when i was 18 and regularly embarked on beatoff marathons.

 

I'm definitely not a teenager anymore.

[Mr. Scot]

Sex is like a race...

Who finishes first enjoys watching loser making a sammich.

 

I hear you're undefeated B)

[Mr. Scot]

OHHHHHHH MY GOOOOOOODNESS i just typed all this bullshit and have to type it again/. What is with this website sometimes.

 

AHEM.

 

Not saying you need to be super specific, but it would be great if guys could clue other guys into things that work well. Like foreplay. It just takes too long to catch onto that and we as women literally have to do a song, dance, bright lights, extravaganza to explain it. 

 

I have a girlfriend (ncbiscuit you know who Im talking about) that has given me some great ideas lately.

 

She and her bf like to get freaky and she was telling me last week during golf how she and her bf love to pick out a porn, put it on, and follow and act out exactly whats going on, on screen.

 

She was also the one to tell me to go to Burlington Coat Factory to get lingerie if I want to get rough because its nice looking but you can rip it off into shreds and not feel bad about it!......Cat and Lola take note of that- they really do have a good selection of stuff.

 

She has told me about how they role play before (which Ill never let her live down bc I was laughing so hard), but it keeps things fun and interesting!

 

I saw him at a party this weekend and I actually think better of him bc he keeps things fun and exciting with her.

 

I don't think it should be throwing out extreme details of your sex like and your wife's underwear size....but maybe something general like

 

hey, have you ever ____________________? I like to do it and it really works for us. Trust me, you'll thank me later.

 

Something along the lines of that.

 

I guess Im giving guys more credit than I should when I assume that by the time you get to 30 or so and married, you stop making the stupid "yeah I totally gave her the d, she wanted it, she loved it" comments.

 

Guess those never stop do they?

 

I'll never learn. Cat, Lola, I feel a good business idea coming on here. Perhaps a new, modern day version of a sex advice line for guys to call into.

 

There are only two pieces of advice I would ever give another guy when it comes to sex:

 

1) Make sure you take care of her needs and not just your own (if you're gonna masturbate, use your hand, not your lady).

 

2) COMMUNICATE

 

See, I can't really give a guy specific advice on how to please his lady because I don't know his lady like that (and don't need or care to).  And if there's one thing i've learned in my romantic life it's that women are extremely unique creatures.  So if a guy wants to know more about how to fulfill his lady, he really should be talking to her, not me.

[lola]

There are only two pieces of advice I would ever give another guy when it comes to sex:

1) Make sure you take care of her needs and not just your own (if you're gonna masturbate, use your hand, not your lady).

2) COMMUNICATE

See, I can't really give a guy specific advice on how to please his lady because I don't know his lady like that (and don't need or care to). And if there's one thing i've learned in my romantic life it's that women are extremely unique creatures. So if a guy wants to know more about how to fulfill his lady, he really should be talking to her, not me.

You are a wise man, Mr. Scot.

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[Mr. Scot]

You are a wise man, Mr. Scot.

 

Don't always feel like it.  Guess you could say a lot of my 'wisdom' comes from mistakes.

 

I do know this much.  I love my girlfriend like I have never loved anyone before.  I used to think I knew what being in love felt like, but I never felt like this before her so I guess I really didn't, not even with the woman I married.  Heck, we had sex like rabbits, but if we weren't having sex we didn't really connect that well...at all.  After my divorce, I swore I'd never put myself in that position again.

 

I don't say this proudly, but I've got a sexual history that no one who looks like me would be expected to have.  Truthfully though, it was all just empty sex and it left me feeling hollow in the end.  Now my girlfriend is no cold fish (just the opposite actually) but my relationship with her is way beyond physical.  Told her just recently that if I could, I'd trade my entire sexual history for one look into her eyes (and yeah, I meant it).

 

So in my experience, the level of physical affection you have ought to correspond to the level of mental, emotional and spiritual commitment you have with each other.  Being completely intimate physically with someone when I didn't have that same level of intimacy in the other aspects of a relationship with them has killed more relationships than I can count, and I doubt I'm the only one that's happened to.

 

For what it's worth...

[h0llywood]

I stand corrected. Apparently men suck at talking about this kind of stuff and its all on us women.

Great.

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Depends on the audience.

 

I talk about women in general with every man I know but only a select few about sexual details about my wife. It believe there is a natural instinct of being protective with those that are around you.

 

For example, I did not mind kicking back telling my squad mates about sexual details about my wife because I would never see them outside of work however It would be awkward for me to tell my best friend that I see every other week "Hey I did this to my wife and she did this and this came out and it was awesome you should've seen it."