Went to high school with him and He cool with my wife and her group of friends, so I just flat out asked him..... why he not here... he said they are talking about schemes and where he fits in , and if that works out he'll come for a visit.... His daughter is here and now he feels it's only right to come back home.
again this from a conversation I had with him, but said right both parties are really just trying to gage the situation.